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To think people shouldn't ring you up when they're eating.

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StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 14/04/2009 11:22

My mum just rang me up while she's eating biscuits. Turns my stomach having to listen to her chewing in my ear, seems amplified down the phone. FGS can she not wait 5 minutes to ring me or wait 5 minutes to eat the biscuit?

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lou222 · 14/04/2009 11:24

disgusting i agree, i also hate people who have the tv on in the background - just turn the sound off before you make the call

Podrick · 14/04/2009 11:24

I think it is rude and revolting to eat on the phone!

IheartEASTEREGGS · 14/04/2009 11:26

my mum phones me on the loo

compo · 14/04/2009 11:29

yuk!

messymissy · 14/04/2009 11:30

No you are Not unreasonable. MIL does it all the time - makes me want to heave!!!!

so hard to deal with this though - what do you say?

she does it during meals, its like she waits until she has a very very full mouth then decides to speak....puts me right off my meal.

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StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 14/04/2009 11:52

Well I just said to my mum "are you eating" in a bit of a disgusted tone and she got the hump and ended the conversation abruptly. Think she was also annoyed that I'm working this afternoon and she wanted me to go furniture shopping with her.

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messymissy · 14/04/2009 11:56

hopefully she wont do it again. Sounds like she was more annoyed that you are not available to shop - that's probably a whole other thread!

Don't think I can tackle MIL about it - they already think I am 'too good for them' 'too intelligent' 'have too much experience of childcare so don;t need their advice' etc etc (I have never said anything to them, they just dont like that I can cope without them) so if i ever mentioned table manners they would lynch me.

GentleOtter · 14/04/2009 11:57

I was fuming at the SEERAD man on the other end of the phone who was obviously munching a pie whilst telling me that we were complete oafs even attemping to apply for the Rural Development Scheme.

sarah293 · 14/04/2009 12:00

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BettySwollux · 14/04/2009 12:03

messymissy, do you have my MIL? She talks constantly, esp with a full mouth, it puts me off inviting her for meals tbh.
In fact, she talks so much, I once heard someone ask FIL "If she stays quiet for over a minute, do you hold a mirror under her nose to check she's still alive?"

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StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 14/04/2009 12:07

I've mentioned it to her before and she took the hump then as well. Still does it!

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mamas12 · 14/04/2009 12:56

My mil was like this also talking to me while on the toilet EEEuw! I just pretend that I can't hear them properly and then say Look I'll have to speak to you later there's something wrong with this connection. She still thinks I have a hearing problem!

PlumpRumpSoggyBaps · 14/04/2009 13:05

My mother does this all the time. And starts a long story while eating. It's got to the point where my sis and I battle over who has to sit opposite her at the table.

It's astonishing (not to mention bleuchhhh), especially because she was so hot on table manners while we were growing up!

On the plus side though, it now means I can tilt my chair, put my elbows on the table, play with my food, slurp my drinks AND reach across people to get things. Mealtimes are great......

fraggletits · 14/04/2009 13:08

Why don't you give her a ring eating an apple? Take really big crunchy bites while you're trying to talk and see how she likes it

messymissy · 14/04/2009 13:14

maybe I do Bettyswollux! FIL makes more mess at the table than my dd - and if we have had cake, i have to hoover under his chair once they have gone!!

tallulahbelly · 14/04/2009 13:48

That wouldn't bother me.

What annoys me is when people (well, DH) make what's clearly a duty call when they're far too busy for a proper conversation.

So we have:

DH: Hello, how are you?
Me: (Talks about some aspect of my day in the belief that he's interested)
DH: (Harassed sounding) I haven't got time. I'm really busy. I've got to go.
Me: But you phoned me. Have you hung up?

The problem is that he sees the phone as a tool for the briefest possible exchange of vital facts whereas I welcome calls as an excuse to stop work and chat.

I now never phone him except to give information he'd think was important. Is it too much to expect him to have learned that if he phones me for no reason at all, it gives the impression that he wants to hear trivia?

We do love each other, really. Though I might kill him when he gets home from work one evening and he won't understand why.

StarlightMcEggzie · 14/04/2009 14:03

I don't like people clearly smoking whilst on the phone to me.

girlafraid · 14/04/2009 14:30

I swear a few of us have the same MIL!

I cannot bear this is, it's disgusting, YANBU

My MIL talks constantly while eating, reaches across me, grabs things from my plate and last week tried to feed my 3 month old baby squirty cream!!!

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