apparently its my fault my kids wont leave my side!!!

[stoppinattwo]

just because DD said she didnt want to go out for the day with the inlaws and I couldnt go as i have guests coming over for lunch/dinner. I said that I didnt mind if DD fancied going with them instead...she started crying and said she only really wanted to be with me...she can be a bit dramatic sometime tbh, but i dont tend to pander to it but there are times when she genuinely wants me...she is 7yo btw. She will however happily got to a friends and stay at parties and go to mil's but all when she is in the mood and I would certainly never make her stay or go somewhere away from me if she wanted to be with me.

But now Im apparently making her insecure and she "wont move without me" OMG...DD is now sobbing upstairs because she really wanted to go but got rattled with having to make a snap decision abuot going, meanwhile they all fecked orf out.

Sorry if this doesnt make much sense, am absolutely boiling

stoppinattwo I think you took one on the chin for the sake of DD's peace of mind there. This makes you a hero. Please accept a sparkly hat.

thankyou gentle.....you know, I think tomorrow I shall invite MIL out for lunch, just me her and DD, I think that she really had the best intention and probably didnt mean to be so last minute pushy snap decision sort of thing....

I think DD will love it...she loves doing lunch!! and I hope it will stop any potential awkwardness about this afternoon. MIL often likes to know that she thinks best, and most of the time she does but she doesnt know DD like I do but hopefully we can enjoy a lovely afternoon tomorrow. I really am feeling a lot better, i think this afternoon i was bubbling iwth anger at DD being upset with dilema's, I spoke to my own mum, who also sometime talks sense ...and she said "you know sometimes we do have to make snap decisions and DD will improve as she gets older"

anyway onwards and upwards....I shant fight this battle with MIL...discretion is the better part me thinks, I shall just make sure she is given advanced warning of our invitation