to be uneasy about DH changing to all female workshop?

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it will save money.
he hasnt cheated on me.
did cheat on ex though.
am uneasy about him sharing workshop with 5/6 women, with lots in common with him, he has reassured me that he loves us/our life and has offered to stay in old expensive place.
so, AIBU or would you be insecure?

The question is not would we be insecure, but would you. If you are, what are your reasons? From the sounds of things he has given no reason for you to be worried about him cheating; he's happy, he's never cheated on you before, and he's making this move for entirely practical reasons. Oh, and he's offered to stay put if you really are unhappy about it.

I'd look at why you're feeling nervous about it before you insist on him continuing with the more expensive place. Have you been cheated on before? Or have you been looking around? Are you concerned that the two of you don't have enough in common, and that he'll be too easily tempted by other women who share his interests?

Being surrounded by women is not automatically a pathway to infidelity. If he's generally trustworthy, I'd suggest you are being...not unreasonable, but maybe a bit over-sensitive.

Didhe cheat on his ex with you ?

If he was going to cheat he would anyway - it wouldn't make much difference if it was an all female workshop or not. If you generally happy in your relationship together then I think you should trust him.

Do not drive him into the arms of another woman with jealously.

My DH is a nurse and therefore has always worked in a pedominantly female environment.
He now has the PMT of 30 women to deal with as well as mine......

If he's never cheated on you or given you any cause not to trust him (and if he had cheated, frankly he'd find opportunity to do so again if he wanted to whether he worked with one woman or one hundred), then yes, you are certainly being irrational. How would you feel if he objected to you getting a job in an all male environment because he thought you were going to have an affair?

DH works all day with his 19 year old PA and it has never actually occurred to me that he might cheat on me with her.

As your dh is teh only man there, everything he says and does will be noticeable.
I am usually the only woman in my office, and I can tell you that I feel pretty conspicuous in flirting/romantic terms. (I am single, so no fidelity issues).
IME - and a huge generalisation I know! - the most "dangerous" offices for affairs are big workplaces that are 50:50 men and women - loads of hormones floating around, theres usually someone already misbehaving, and safety in numbers.

thank you all, good points made.
had a chat last night, he said my worrying about this makes him feel like throwing his tools away.
i know im being silly really ( im gorgeous )
BTW, he didnt cheat with me, im too grown up for that rubbish!

I think YABU. How would you like it if your DH said he wouldn't be happy about you working in an all male environment? I'd be insulted if my DH said that to me.

I have in the past been the only female at work. The wife of one of the blokes told him that she did not want him to work wth me (we had to pair up and go out in a van all day). So the boss never put us together. I was really pissed off that this woman's bad attitude was affecting my work and the bloke in question was fat, ugly and 20 years older than me . His wife was a driving instructor so no doubt was in her car alone with fit, young men. I just didn't get it.

you are being completely unreasonable.