For not wanting to have sex next week?

[JuiceMsLucy]

Partner has invited us around to sleep at his house next week, me and the kids.

He says I can sleep in his bed and he will sleep on the sofa.

Am I being naive to think he actually means this?

How do I mention beforehand that I don't want to go that far yet, just incase that is what he has in mind?

Why does he want you to stay overnight? Does he live far away? YANBU, just drop into the conversation something like "ok, so I'll sleep in your bed and you'll sleep on the sofa? ..OK, great.."

no we live nearby but we're going out for the day very early the following day and we were already invited for dinner the day before so I can see why he suggested it but I'm worried he's hoping for sex.

How long have you been seeing him?
Why is he inviting you and the kids on a sleepover? Isnt that a bit odd?

To be honest, in a situation like that, I would prefer to sleep in the double bed with the kids, to ensure nothing untoward happened to them. But I am very distrustful.

I would also have the DC in the bed with me for insurance. Saves on him makin up extra beds too.

Oh no, we've known each other for ages. My kids are friends with his son who also lives there.

Juice, I don't think you need to say anything. He has said he will sleep on the couch and you can have his bed... take him at his word.

If you haven't 'gone that far' yet, unless he's particularly stupid, he's going to realise you probably don't want the first time to be while you have the kids there too... (well, unless you always have them I guess). Why are you staying the night?

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I am sure, if you took him upstairs and gave him the night of his life, he wouldn't complain...but he would equally accept the sofa unless you indicated otherwise!

sure he wont make any advances while your and his children are there

do you trust him,as in do you beleive what he says?

if you dont, then should you be staying there?