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to think that a 40 wks pregnant friend might be a little pissed off with constant requests for 'news'

19 replies

LovelyBertha · 10/04/2009 14:14

I know this has been done before, but please help clear up a dispute between me and my sister. Her friend is ready to pop and my dsis was surprised when I suggested that constant 'anything happening yet?' texts from everyone might be beginning to grate. I know it completely did my head in when I was waiting for ds to arrive, but she thinks that it was just me being a grumpy cow.

Quick poll- would it/ did it get your goat?

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ScorpiowithabigS · 10/04/2009 14:15

It did my head in.

Neeko · 10/04/2009 14:16

Me too

Nancy66 · 10/04/2009 14:19

annoying - but people are just taking an interest. Be grateful. They've got to listen to you bleat on about your kid for the next 18 years.

TheCrackFox · 10/04/2009 14:25

YANBU.

It really pissed me off. Did my friends and family think I was so stupid I would forget to mention I had the baby?

When you are ready to pop I didn't want to think about it too much anyway. I used to have moments of sheer terror when I got to about 38 weeks.

MargaretMountford · 10/04/2009 14:26

people are just interested - I don't think that's anything to be tetchy about

Blondeshavemorefun · 10/04/2009 14:29

not a mummy so can personally comment

but it annoyed my friends with people keep asking

she said she would let them know when she had given birth - one friend was 42 weeks and finally got induced

easterchickfordinner · 10/04/2009 14:29

did my head in and my friend also who's just had a baby. As she said I still have the use of hands and mouth and can still tell people about it myself.

namechangerforareason · 10/04/2009 14:31

Did my fookin head in, like I'm not gonna tell them when DS arrived FFS.

In the end I stopped answering phone and put message on answerphone to say I would update as and when!

Like its not a bad enough wait for yourself without people constantly asking for news!

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 10/04/2009 14:35

It annoyed me - and that was just daily phone calls, well pre-text era! I went more than a fortnight over my dates, and there were only the two sets of grandparents calling once a day each, and that was enough. I cannot imagine the sheer hell that must result from the modern way of texting yer every fart...

Will you be expected to text regular updates while in labour too, or is that a job for the birth partner? Will you have to take along an extra body into the delivery suite, just to keep popping in and out to text to a breathless nation?

kitbit · 10/04/2009 14:38

It's kind of obvious isn't it. If you're home and answering the phone you didn't have the baby secretly in the night.

A much better phone call is "how are you doing? can I do anything for you?" which is a covert and nicer way of ringing someone to see if they've had any twinges yet cos they might just offer the info since you haven't directly asked.

hedgiemum · 10/04/2009 14:41

YANBU!
It is horrid to be chased up when heavily pregnant. you feel like you're failing every time you send a "no, nothing happening yet" reply.

solidgoldshaggingbunnies · 10/04/2009 14:44

It is maddening. My mate R (who has just had a DS) got fed up with everyone asking her and started posting hourly updates on Facebook: 'Having my tea. No, not in labour yet. Nice hot bath. Not in labour.'
Then all of a sudden her DH's status went 'Have phoned midwife..' and eveyrone leapt on the threads and sat there knitting till the announcement 5 hours later.

StayFrosty · 10/04/2009 14:45

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kitbit · 10/04/2009 14:45

I turned off all the phones when I went overdue. In fact my phone was on by mistake when we were legging it to the hospital (40 min drive, contractions went from 45 mins to 4 EEEK!) and I somehow had a conversation with MIL without giving away that I was having any contractions at all, however she heard the car and got all excited so I had to say "just a bit of discomfort, going to get checked out...." otherwise we would have had a contingent waiting at the hospital!

Gelamum · 10/04/2009 14:56

YANBU

People kept asking and it drove me completely nuts. I was 2 wks plus overdue.

I felt insulted. I was hardly going to answer the text or the phone call by saying -
".... oh yes the baby, glad you phoned and asked as I had completely forgotten.... I had it yesterday "

....was I ?

bumpybecky · 10/04/2009 15:02

it completely did my head in so much so that I unplugged and switched off the phones in the end. All four times!

Was 40+11, 40+8, 40+3 and 40+10 with mine. Being overdue is horrid

ummadam · 10/04/2009 16:15

Depends on the friend

I was so bored and fed up that I was happy to bore to tears almost anyone who asked....... provided it wasn't the inlaws!

Gentle · 10/04/2009 20:19

I think you're right and well done for protecting 40 weeks Mum from yet another text. I suppose it's a sign that people care, but when I was ready to pop I felt fonder of the people who cared enough to put that bit of thought into it and realise that any news would reach them when I was ready.

I'm due again later this summer and am planning to get a new mobile phone at around the same time... Oh whoops, haven't I given the number out yet, sorry? - and will be posting updates on Facebook every 6 hours or so saying "Still no baby yet!"

JuwEggsm · 10/04/2009 20:31

YANBU - it's driving me a little mad right now at 41+2. It's bad enough being overdue - constant reminders don't really help!

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