To think you are not in a positon to complain about there being no work if.....

[SalBySea]

....you havent applied for a single one!

argh its doing my head in! someone I know keeps complaining about how she cant get another job (after redundancy) but she HASNT APPLIED FOR ANYTHING! she's not even looking, just whinging about how there's no work for her!

I know that unemployment is up and all but have friends applying left right and centre who I will happily have my ear bent by, I just have absolutely no patience for this girl! (and cant seem to keep it to myself either - reply with "well of course you cant get work without APPLYING for any")

Oi! WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU SHOUTING AT?

Seriously, what on earth are you so bothered about? If you're not interested change the subject. And so fucking what if her family are sympathetic, they probably know a lot more about it than you and guess what? They are her family and they care about her. It's not for you to say whether or not they should fell sorry for her.

cause I had another 30mins of it today that's why I'm bothered by her. I have made it pretty clear that I dont care.

I say flippant things like "weeell, its hard to find something you're not looking for" and change the subject but she seems to want to educate me about the credit crunch by telling me anecdotes like her boyfriend's brother who's been looking for a year etc and saying how everyone's in the same boat, well actually they're not cause SOME people are actively jobhunting.

Yes but SOME people have genuinely been out of work for a long time now because it really is tough at the moment.

Perhaps start meeting up with your friend somewhere that you won't encounter this woman?
Then you won't be quite so angry. And won't have to make off remarks to her.

"Yes but SOME people have genuinely been out of work for a long time now because it really is tough at the moment."

Yeeesssss and as I've said, I know plenty such people who've been trying and getting nowhere and I have all the time in the world for THEM!

I already avoid her as much as possible. It is very hard to avoid a friend of a friend without putting the friend in an awkward position. I'm not gonna say "I'm not gonna come round to your pizza night or your birthday night out or your daughters 1st Bday if X is going"

Look she says she has not looked anywhere for another job

If that is true then she cannot blame anyone but herself for her unemployment (sure, it is possible that HAD she have looked she's still be unemployed but it then wouldnt be for lack of trying which makes it different in my eyes)

If she's lying for whatever reason and she's been secretly applying round the clock and getting nowhere then why constantly bring the subject up at all if you dont wanna talk about it?