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to think that the hospital/surgeon could be a little more apologetic??

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fattiemumma · 09/04/2009 12:23

i had a growth on my jaw just below my teeth. I had an op 3 weeks ago to remove it. it was nothing sinister, just some wierd extra tooth or something.

anyway, had the op and it all went ok. they had to remove quite a large part of my jaw which he explained will make that side of my face very week so try not to fall over (well derr)

My face was still very numb but he explained that they had used a lot of anaesthetic because it was such a relativly large op.

went home. the next day my face was still numb, like it is when you go to a normal dentist and they inject you. you know when you dribble out of teh side of your mouth as you just can't feel anything. well this was the entire right side of my lower jaw, my lip and part of my cheek.

at firt i just thought they had topped me up a little too much to prevent pain when i got home but after 3 days and still no feeling i rang the hospital to speak to my surgeon.

when i explained he kinda sucked in some breath like a plumber about to give a quote.
he said that because my op was very close to a nerve that runs along my jaw line it sounds as though they have damaged that nerve during the op. that they had no way of knowing whilst in theatre and that whilst given time i may get SOME MILD sensation back, the damage was permenant.

So now i am left with half of my face numb. i bite my lip whilst eating, dribble whilst drinking. i can't feel my teeth when i brush them, if i drip a bit of food i can't feel it so just look like a mad woman, i can't put on lipstick properly as i can't feel half of my lip....... its awful.

I know its nowhere near as bad as some medical cock ups can be but im just a bit miffed that the attitude im getting from the hospital is one of " oh well, whats done is done"

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herbietea · 09/04/2009 14:27

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chocolatewolfnipplechips · 09/04/2009 14:56

IME Surgeons never apologise thats why they are surgeons and not Medics.

He could have been kinder but you did have the risks explained pre op its really unfortunate but their is not much you can do except wait till all the swelling has gone and see if any feeling returns.

SlartyBartFastlaidanegg · 09/04/2009 15:04

try and think what you want to say at your follow up appointment. what questions you need answering.
i am sure if you are the 1 in 100 that it has happened to you, they will be attentive and helpful as much as they can,
perhaps some form of therapy might help?
i take it you do have follow up?

fattiemumma · 09/04/2009 15:08

i do, but only because i have called and asked to actually be seen. they were happy to just let me go on my dribbly way.

As i say, im not proportioning blame as such. its just that i feel as though im collatoral damage.
as though it's ok that i have this (all be it minor) possibly permenant damage that causes quite frustrating inconveniences to my life and its seen as "tough, get on with it"

maybe im just being a bit whingey. but [wail] s'not fair

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SlartyBartFastlaidanegg · 09/04/2009 15:10

that's understandable.
you need some advice.

LibrasJusticeLeagueofBiscuits · 09/04/2009 15:34

I'm surprised the surgeon didn't have you back in for some sort of follow up. Whilst there are side effects and they were explained to you I would have thought the surgeon might have wanted to see the extent of the side effects.

CrushWithEyeliner · 09/04/2009 15:44

you must be seen again - you poor thing

crankytwanky · 09/04/2009 22:40

Good grief.

Can they refer you to a physio?

2shoestrodonalltheeggs · 09/04/2009 22:45

sorry you are having acrap time. you need to contact someone at the hospital(can't for the life of me think of their title) they ar eth patient somthing. I complained to them when ds's appointments kept being changed and they were brilliant.
(I bet you still look drop dead geourgeous)

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