am i being unreasonable to lock dh out and go to bed.....

[mum2samandalex]

he went to the pub to watch the footie with a mate that finished at 9.30ish. I was expecting him home 12ish maybe. Anyhow just after 12 i text him have you got you key and he replied leave the back door open. which means he hasnt got a key and no way am i leaving the door open when someone could just walk in when me and the kids are in bed. Ive had a shitty night with ds whos been awake anyhow and noe hes asleep and dh isnt home. So should i just go to bed ive texted saying thanks for letting me know i.e that hes gone somewhere else after the pub and wouldnt be home til late is that too much to ask is it?????

oh and its 2.30am in the morning i have a funny feeling that hes fallen asleep on someones couch which will lead me into my next thread am i being unreasonable to knock him out when he comes through the door for making me wait up for him all night and now im wound up and cant sleep grrrrrrrr!!!!

Lock him out! Let him knee up the drainpipe and beg you to let him in Why should you risk being attacked because he can't get his arse home? If it were my other half he could go and scratch. Luckily my dh is always so knackered and go's to bed at 10.30pm every night!

Have you tried phoning him? I'd say "lock him out" but will he just get home and make a lot of noise, disturbing the whole household if he comes back?

ok so so should i knock him out! Came home 3.30 he rang my mobile which ignored at first. Concience got the better of me so went down stairs and looked outside to see him him laid out on the bench in the pouring rain needless to say he was sent to the couch. He then crawled into bed half way through night with wondering hands so got a smack! Didnt sleep at all thanks to his snoring and taking up the bed.

How annoying.

must be the night for it. Mine came home at 1am and spent 90 minutes out in the rain trying to wake me (but not the boys, so at least he was that considerate) to get me to let him in. Gave me a heartattack by throwing a shoe at the window and knocking all the stuff off the window sill - he then said it were my fault for not hearing my phone (which was downstairs) ringing for 90 minutes.

I had even rung him before I went to bed, but apparently he didnt realise he had no keys then.

Got my own back by making him get up at 7am with the boys and I slept till 9.

So no, YANBU - make him grovel today!!

Definately knock him out!!!!!!!!!!

yep def made him get up with boys this am. Grrrrr really hate men. He doesnt go out often but when he does he always comes back hammered!!!! I so hope hes sufffering today.

in fairness if you'd ust left the bc door open like he'd asked he wouldn't have needed to ring your mobile.

Glad it's not just me who longs to be married to a grown up.

I would not have been happy to go to bed with the house unlocked either.

He put you in a no-win situation which needs explaining today and a humble apology from him - and no sympathy for the bad head or getting soaked waiting for you to let him in - all self-inflicted!