not sure about letting ds go on a sleep over when parent is absent?

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3 year 9 boys, invited for sleepover, then he lets it slip parent wont be there!

feel parent is being irresponsible and using son's friends as baby sitters.
wwyd

how old is year 9?

YANBU

Surely 3x boys of the same age = more trouble rather than less?

14/15 year olds? No way!

Who will bw there?????

Def wouldn't send my child to a sleepover in a house with only 9yr olds present. I would more likely be reporting the parents.

Sorry perhaps I misunderstand your OP.

My 12 yr old isn't allowed freinds in to play during the day if I am out, his friend has the smae rules.

I wouldn't let a child of mine go such a sleepover.

year 9, i mention cos although ds is 14, the other 2 may be coming up to 14

Sorry knew I had something wrong I am scottish and we don't refer to it as year9 we have S2 etc.

At that age still no way!!

Not in a million years.

Are you sure they haven't cooked this up between them?

It would be better to invite the boy who is going to be on his own over to yours IMO.

phew,
he is upset at my saying no and i can't understand the mum's attitude frankly!
evne if she was coming home at nearly midnight it wouldnt be so bad.

no way

i wondered about inviting the other boy over, but one would be left out, however good idea, might throw that one in

Why not invite them both?

Pizza, sleeping bags, you will be Mrs Popular and you will be investing in your relationship with your ds and his friends for the next few (most difficult) years.

Honestly - it really is worth getting to know their friends and making them welcome at this age....I know they are a bit smelly in the foot department, but oust is very good for the trainers.

When I want to encourage them to get up and get ready to go out/home in the morning, I send dd to do her piano/recorder practice - that soon shifts them without the need for any requests/arguments.

thanks,
realised i have to go to work the next day...
oh dear.
anyway ds shoudl be happier with that suggestion rather than the NO i was tryign to say earlier.

Oh dear - pity about having to go to work...

Never mind it will be worth it in the long run.

Teenagers are harder than toddlers - you just have to be wily, inventive, try to keep one step ahead, and ride it out. Wine helps.

thanks,
he was a difficult toddler, but looking back through rose tinted specs it all seems such a storm in a teacup now.

I know what you mean - at least when they are 2 you know where they are and with whom..........

Must go to bed now. (The last one (17) has just come home, raided the fridge and gone to bed - school holidays are exhausting).

Hope the sleep over goes well.

thanks