...to not want my 4 month old sucking on easter eggs!!?!!

[alannabanana]

well we've been down with in-laws for last couple of days - leaving today - and last night great-grannie came over and said she had bought some little mini-eggs for DS who "can have a little suck on them and mummy can finish them off." she was justifying it by saying "its just a token gesture isnt it" (insert nofuckingwayemoticon here). i mean he's not even 18 weeks the poor thing, and plus why the hell would i want him getting a taste for chocolate!!
i know the older generation had funny ideas about things when child-rearing - she for example did the old brandy round the gums trick when hers were teething - but why should these funny ways be forced on me and mine!
luckily she in fact forgot to bring the mini-eggs so it never became an issue, but i couldnt help thinking that if she had remembered and got them out of her bag and given him them, what would i do? humour a frail elderly lady who doesn't really mean any harm, or say 'no way hose' and possibly create a bad atmosphere? WWYD? you can tell me if you think im being over-protective here! DH thinks i'd make our boy walk around in a cotton wool lined plastic bubble if i could!

incidently, this trip has also been dominated by talk of solids/weaning etc - 'has he had a taste of anything other than milk yet?' 'he's so big he'll be wanting steak and chips soon..' 'i weaned my 3 at 5 minutes old and they turned out fine..' blah blah blah.
glad to be going home soon thats for sure!

Oh dear! I would nab the mini eggs for myself in that situation.

I'd just say thanks very much, and just eat them myself later. Some battles are not worth fighting, especially with an older generation who you don't see a huge amount of. Minieggs though - how much of a choking hazard would they be, in addition to the nutritional/too early arguments!

Ah, it's a case of practising the tight lipped smile and nodding, then totally ignoring insane old ladies their advice

'Ooh lovely, we'll save them for Easter Sunday /after tea/ blah blah' - and then scoff them yourself.

DS is nearly 3, and apparently MIL and SIL have bought him easter eggs. He does get a very little chocolate at the rate of approx 4 buttons a week, so I don't think he'll be seeing those !

tell me about it jamin - mini-eggs im sure are the exact diameter of a childs windpipe, perfectly ideal for chokage!
i reckon i would have just taken them and had them myself later thank you very much nan, but i got the feeling she would have liked to see him with one in his gob, taken pictures etc. i know she was probably thinking this might be her last easter with her great grandchildren, which i why i feel so torn about thwarting this had it come up, but sometimes i get so sick of placating his family at my own expense! grrr
you can tell stuff like this has been bubblin under a while can't you...!!

I know what you mean about the pestering about weaning when they have no sooner popped out of your vagina. My Mum went on and on about it, despite me giving her the reasons for waiting til he was 6 months, it really pissed me off to the extent that I snapped one day and said something along the lines of "I will wean him when I think he is ready not when you tell me to, I have all the advice I need and it is up to me when I do it."
Mini eggs , I would have said "oh I don't want him to have any yet as he won't want his milk later on, he can have them later on" and then scoffed them myself. What did your PIL's say?

If it was MIL and she wasn't particularly elderly (and at some stage ever remotely likely to be looking after them I would be VERY upfront about it and say absolutely NOT), but as it's great gran (elderly and frail and not EVER going to have sole charge of them), I'd just thank her so much for the lovely thought. If she whipped them out of the bag I's just say, lovely, something to share with him at Easter (whilst dreaming of nabbing them all myself).

With the solids, it's not so long ago that 4 months was touted as the perfect time to wean so I wouldn't be so hard on them with that, just explain it's not the current thinking and ignore all futher comments (this too shall pass, this too shall pass, this too shall pass)... think of it as practice for ... is he not crawling/walking/talking/out of nappies/sleeping through/at nursery/at school/moving out........

Going home is lovely isn't it

wiggles you're so funny! it did feel like no sooner had i been sewn up then people were going on about weaning him 'because he's so big and hungry!' i might have believed them had i not come on here and got the general concensus that early weaning is a no no. my mum has given up trying to convince me to wean, and in fact defends my choice to wait it out when my dad starts going on about mushing up fish and chips for DS!
they only really jest though...it is MIL who really takes the prize for not-so-subtle hint dropping about weaning! we could be talking about the grand national and she would manage to integrate the word 'solids'! i should add that the in-laws are very west country, where things are a little old-school, a little backwards...catch my drift?

just realised how that might have sounded to any west countryers on here
i am in fact from a west country dad and a rural irish mum, but was raised in and around and london, so feel i am a reasonable authority on both the rural and the urban! and believe me, the in-laws are old-school/backwards even by west country standards!