To ban my DC's from MIL's???

[Boys2mam]

My DP and I have 4 DS's altogether - he has two DS's from his previous relationship (5 and 7), I have one DS from my marriage (5) and one DS together(7 months).

DP's mother went this weekend and purchased a 7 month old Rottweiler.

AIBU by refusing to allow my 2 DS's to visit her home? MY DP's eldest son is currently staying with her for the Easter hols and his mother (my DP's ex) isn't aware of the dog.

Am I overreacting?

That is a shame. But I'm glad she was so nice about it. You really have done the right thing though. I hate the idea of children and dogs being left alone together.
I was attacked by a dog when I was little. It was supposed to be a family friendly dog. I just don't think you can ever trust an animal that could kill with a child.

Boys2Mam - maybe she just feels it's too unfair to keep the dog in the nicely-kitted-out-yet-still-a-cupboard'cupboard for the length of time required for a 'sleep over'...

Oh and how wrong was I?! When I posted on your thread about boys being boys - I assumed your DS was an only child... LOL ... seems not!!

Thanks Chipping, I hadn't thought of the not wanting to lock her away for a whole night. I'm not actually looking for him to go overnight but at one time she would phone asking to have him then since this she just stopped. Its still a shame she hasn't been to see her DGS, but I think thats a whole new thread!!

Only my DS (5) and our son together (8.5 months) live with us, DSS's live with their Mum. The boys being boys is likely to include my cheeky little baby before long too

Boys2mamSadly, when you said they no longer ask to have DS over to stay so I wonder if I have caused more upset than she has decided to share with me I thought you meant, stay, as in overnight - sorry.

As for her not visiting, who knows, parents should come with a handbook

Ah, I see, well, I stand by my original post on your other thread

You mean she doesn't want him to visit at all?? I like chippingin thought you meant just doesn't ask him to sleepover.

That is very sad

Could you ask DP to speak to her? Maybe find out if she is offended and explain to her that you still want DS to grow up with a good relationship with his grandma?

I know it's hard, but it's worth a try surely?