To have told my family I'm gay when I'm not?

[SheekLaSheak]

I'm sick to death of family constantly going on about me 'meeting someone'. Everytime I see one of them I get "are you dating again yet?" "don't you get lonely?" "wouldn't you like a nice man?" etc etc

I got so sick of it that I told my grandad (after another round of questioning) that I'm actually a lesbian and so rather than looking for a man, I'm waiting for the right woman to come along.

I told him this because I knew he would be the one most likely to mention it to everyone else and I thought it was funny!

As predicted, the story of me "coming out" has spread like wild fire and the entire family are apprantly gossiping about it, all shocked, saying how they knew "all was not right with me" etc etc.

I've just sat back and left them to it. I find it all very ammusing and now at least they won't keep going on at me about men.

My sister however is fuming and said I have embarrassed our mum, mortified our grandparents and embarrassed the whole family. She wants me to apologise and tell the truth. They won't believe me now anyway even if I did tell the truth as the "story" is too "sensational" for them to give up! they'll be loving it really!

AIBU? It was just a daft joke and I would never have done it if they hadn't have persisted with the dating shite.

I think I agree with Leningrad on this. I can see why it's amusing on a limited level, but it's not going to do anything to improve your situation, it's just going to give you a whole new set of family irritations to deal with.

Plus, yes, when you're revealed to not be what you've claimed, it's a lovely opportunity for them to give vent to as many anti-gay sentiments as they want.

Part of me is thinking I should lighten up about it, but another is remembering the unpleasantness of coming out, and how my mother, after she completely lost her temper and beat me, spent the next few years insisting I was making it up. I can well imagine, if she'd have known something like your situation, it would have been even more ammunition.

Erm not very funny - coming out is an incredibly difficult thing to do, it's not a joke.

What is funny is how much of a tit you'll feel when you have to explain that you're not gay and you just said it forra laaaaarf. How stupid will you look?

You should have said you've taken a vow of celibacy instead.

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL YANBU tad silly But I hear you I get it all the time