to want to sleep in a separate bed? snoring...

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I love my dh during the day - I really do. At night I can feel like I want to divorce him NOW and never see him again. He snores like a train and it is a real misery.

What do people do about this?

Alibabaandthe40bunnies - yes you are right even a small amount of extra weight can make a difference.

I put on a full 1 stone last year (because of illness) and I snored a lot more. I got most of it off now and am snoring less.

HAve you tried the nose strips?

I have tried nose strips beanieb - bought a bumper box in excitement when I spotted them, at enormous expense, and they didn't work... there are different types of snoring aren't there? My dh is overweight by a stone or so - and has a bottle or two of beer (though not much) most nights. He has started running recently, so I'm really hoping it will have an effect on his snoring.

Glad its not just me and my DH then. We started sleeping seperately 3 years ago and the only problem is that I now find it physically impossible to sleep in the same room as him.

He has promised to lose some weight in an attempt to help with the problem. At the moment if we go away for the weekend and have to sleep together I have to resign myself to getting about 3 hours sleep. I am currently 3 months pregnant and refuse to make the sacrifice.

For the record, I bought him a Silent Knight ring (£30) from Boots and it didn't work - although it did say on the box to try for 10 days and if need be get another one!

We are now in a position where we are having our third child and although we have a four bedroomed house two of them will probably have to share.

I think wives and partners of severe snorers should have a support thread.

Phew - I am not alone then. DH and I often spend nights apart due to his earthquake style snoring and my fidgeting. Interestingly both of our parents have always had separate rooms so its not that weird for us but we are definitely less close as a result of a 2 month bout of separate rooms (I am pg and have Kenny Everett type restless legs at the moment).
Here is that Times article that Fraggletits mentioned - Why Happy Couples Are Moving to Separate Beds
Made me feel better but not quite sure about DVF's comment about her husband living in a hotel because 'he respects her'. My long term plan is that when we eventually move house the main criteria for buying the new one will be whether it fits a super kingsize - then there is enough room to build up a wall of pillows down the middle to cushion the snores !

I wish something would make me feel better about separate beds! I sort of wish everyone (society and that!) would just say it's fine and then I could stop feeling anxious / pissed off and all the other things not being able to sleep properly makes me feel.

LOL at Kenny Everett legs Toppy!!

Thanks also for link - really interesting - makes me feel like slightly less of a freak

Good article - mentioned it to DH yesterday and we sheepishly admitted we both sleep better apart (he's been away for a week recently, so I had the bed to myself, then he had a cold and has been sleeping badly so going into the spare room, plus I snore and he often bails out in the night because of that).

When it's just my snoring that's the problem, earplugs (him) and nose strips (me) sometimes prevent midnight bed shuffling.

Haven't read this whole thread, but I feel your pain.

Toppy mentioned the wall of pillows and that's what I use - just one by my ear actually - and we only have a standard double.

I find it also helps with his tendency to throw a heavy arm over me which wakes me up, or try to snuggle up and blow air in to my face.

He sometimes moans about the pillow taking up space, but he knows without it he always tries to climb on top of me, then he gets woken up by me shouting.

Haven't tried the ear plugs route as I don't like things in my ears, but I keep meaning to experiment.

Yanbu. I swear the whole house vibrates when dh snores, which is most nights...and most nights I either boot him out into the spare room, or he starts off in there.

Don't feel guilty about it - there's nothing wrong with making sure you get a decent night's sleep, and someone who loves you will understand this.