My DH works six days a week. When he arrives home, it's usually dinner then a few hours nap before he goes off to see his friends (arriving back after midnight) several nights a week.
We have DS and DD living at home, and step DS and DD at weekends (who I look after while he's at work). Even on Saturday nights, we have the same routine (dinner, sleep, off out to mates house while I stay home with kids) and on Sundays I have to put him on a guilt trip to spend any time with the kids instead of going shopping or off somewhere with his mates.
He says Sundays are the only day he has off, and he's entitled to spend time "enjoying himself" because he earns it by working so hard.
He says that he provides the money for our home, food, clothes and trips abroad. I work from home, earn barely a pittance compared to him, but still contribute more than half towards the bills (though I can't afford to contribute towards holidays and expensive days out as I'm broke by the end of the week).
Today he called from work to ask if he should book a flight abroad to see his brother. It was only a month since he last went over to visit (alone, second time this year). We usually visit as a family once per year. I don't holiday alone.
I get to go out without the kids perhaps twice a year, usually cinema or theater. I don't work as hard as he does to earn money.
Am I being unreasonable to ask that he spends more time with the kids, to give me a break? Am I unreasonable not to want him to go abroad again so soon without me and the kids?