To feel a bit smug.

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I am going to give a bit of background to this as I suspect people will think IABU if I don't. When my DS was born he had silent reflux and basically screamed all the live long day and was very thrashy and fidgity for the first few months. My parents then gleefully proclaimed "what a handful" and a "little sod" he would be when he's older and basically found it quite funny and my Mum even asked me if I thought he would be hyperactive .
After cranial osteopathy and a lot of tears from me DH and DS he finally settled down and is generally a happy little man and is very pleasent and lovely, although he has his defiant moments. He settles on his own and sleeps really well normally. When DS was a few months old and settled my Dad remarked one day on what a "good job" he thought myself and DH were doing as DS was so happy and settled etc, etc. To this my Mum added "yes well she's got an "easy baby" hasn't she", quite bitchy I thought. She is always saying how "easy" I've got it etc, she doesn't spend enough time him to see what he is like to make that assumption, although this is through my choice to not spend alot of my time with her.
Anyway to the matter of smugness, my DH and I went to our friends on Sat night and my parents babysat for us. My Mum has never fed DS or even changed his nappy, circumstances have mean't she has never had to. He has looked after him for a couple of hours before but never had to do anything practical. This was the first time she had to do it. He apparently would not lie on his back for her to change him and kept screaming and paddying when she tried (he does this with me but he gives up eventually and lets me do it). He fell asleep on his bottle and wouldn't wake up to take it, he didn't even finish 1/2 of it. He then woke up a couple of hours later and she had to top up feed him again as he wouldn't settle. Basically he was hard work for her.
AIBU to feel a bit smug about this given her "easy baby comments". I know they did a kind thing babysitting for us etc, etc but I can't help feeling this way.

Well your Mum prob won't babysit again but no YANBU to feel smug.

The funny thing is she is meant to be looking after DS for a day a week when I go back to work. She was pestering me and laying it on thick for me to leave him with her FT, almost to the point of emotional blackmail. I wonder if she'll change her mind?

perhaps you won't feel so smug when she decides it will be too much for her to have him when you go back to work

dh and i have no family to babysit for us, at all.

count yourself lucky even if they come out with silly things, hurtful as they can be, but willing to babysit.

Anyfucker why do you assume the op's mum would have the baby when she goes back to work?? I don't know anyone with this arrangement

doh

littlelamb, because that was what the OP said

hmm, yes having now actually read the thread I wouldn't leave him with her. You don't seem to want to anyway

littlelamb, just outta interest, do you really not know anyone whose parents have their child(ren) whilst they work?

mine did

and so do/did many other people I know

No, I honestly don't. I guess I'm lucky that dd went to a good nursery, because my parents live 300 miles away. Tbh, I'm not sure I'd ask them even if they lived round the corner. It would be nice to have that option if the dcwere sick or in an emergency though. But maybe its a generational thing. My parents are still only in their forties, so have their own jobs to get to.

I want my Mum to move closer to me, this being one reason! ( The other is that she lives alone in the middle of nowhere and I worry about her) But I do think making silly comments must be hardwired into grandparents. MIL excels herself at this and Mum has come out with a few gems like "If you give him a bottle he'll sleep through" although she bfed my brother for 3 years!

my parents have and still do look after my ratbags ...don't be showing off..

YANBU!

My MIL is always saying stupid things to me, and 9 times ot of 10 she is proven wrong. I always feel smug in these cases

Thanks for all your messages, I do love and fully appreciate my Mum and I have never said "I told you so" or rubbed her nose in it. She just likes to tell people (friends and people she bumps into who asks if he is good) and remind me of the fact that I have an easy baby and how my DB was a nightmare for her. I just like the fact that she has been proven wrong (Ineed like you said) and I can feel a bit smug about it that's all.