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To eat the chocolate egg pil have bought my 16 month old ds2?

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sail73 · 06/04/2009 14:33

Just found out that mil has bought ds2 an easter egg despite the fact that she knows we don't want him to have chocolate yet. My opinion is I will buy them chocolate when they are old enough to be aware its a desirable thing which imo this is not the case for ds2 at 16 months but definately the case for my 3 year old!! Thats my opinion/decision for my children and in no way a criticism of anyone elses choices for their children btw! Anyway this leaves me with a dilemma should I:
a Tell remind mil before Sunday ds2 does not eat chocolate (have already asked dh why he didn't do this last night when she told him and he said its a bit late now shes bought it!)
b Accept the gift and eat it without telling mil i've done so
c Accept the gift eat it and tell mil I've done so
d Just give ds2 the chocolate and be done with it! So mn jury wwyd?

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TsarChasm · 06/04/2009 14:37

d but I wouldn't let him eat it all at once.

DSM · 06/04/2009 14:37

B or D.

Personally, I would let him have it, but if you have chosen not to, then just eat it, wouldn't say anything because there is no need. Let her think she bought him a present and he enjoyed it.

Sherida · 06/04/2009 14:40

Awww YAB sort of U! Choclate is an exciting part of easter, and I have GREAT memories of being given eggs! My DD likes a nibble of chocolate now and then (at 13 months...) but I see no harm in small bits.

OTOH it's YOUR child, YOUR decision and I wouldn't blame you one jot if you chuffled the whole thing (tho I'd save the weeniest bit for DD) AND I'd tell mil what I'd done.

thumbsucker · 06/04/2009 14:41

I have deliberated over similar situations several times and I'm sorry to say, have given in to the fact that that's what grandparents do. They seem to think that the 70s (edit as you wish) were utterly fantastic and that we're all ok so what's the problem - the problem is that we now know that our diets probably weren't what they should have been as children and now we are more educated but yes, we are mostly ok and IMO as long as your children are given chocolate on a clear understanding that it is a treat rather than something to be eaten everyday, you'll make them happy for half an hour, you'll make your PIL happy (think of it as an investment in babysitting if you must) and there are more important things to have fights about. My children (4 and 2) seldom get chocolate apart from when nana's around, which isn't very often.

tummytickler · 06/04/2009 14:41

Eat it . Mine never get a whole easter egg, I eat half whilst it sits in the fridge.

notsoteenagemum · 06/04/2009 14:43

I'd probably say "thanks mil, ds2 has never had chocolate before, he might need some help eating it" or something similar.

numptysmummy · 06/04/2009 14:43

B but save a tiny bit for ds.

flowerybeanbag · 06/04/2009 14:45

B but give him a little bit as well

MarlaSinger · 06/04/2009 14:46

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NeedCoffee · 06/04/2009 14:46

b or c, dd 18mo has been bought a few easter eggs, and its very unlikely she'll get any of them, whats the point? She'll be wanting them soon enough anyway.

motherlovebone · 06/04/2009 14:48

A, yanbu! its for their health. plenty of time for junk food yet

ChippingIn · 06/04/2009 14:50

C - you have already made the decision that your DS2 is not having chocolate until he knows what he's missing. (Whether anyone agress with that is irrelevant (happens that I do - unfortunately LO2 caught on very quickly as to what she was missing )).

You have told your MIL enough times, if she wants to 'forget', that's up to her, it doesn't mean you have to let him have it. Eat and enjoy, tell her later you shared it with your DH or that DS1 ate it and it was lovely . She knows, she's choosing to ignore your POV.

FelineFine · 06/04/2009 14:51

YANBU

I/We ate two mini eggs easter eggs over the weekend. Very nice they were too. Easter Eggs always come down in price closer to the BIG day, anyhow.

HensMum · 06/04/2009 14:52

b) but let DS have a bit.

I've bought my 17 month old a chocolate lolly which I'll give to him in several sittings. If he gets much else, I'll either eat it myself or keep it in the fridge and dole it out over time as I did his Christmas chocolate (still got half a Milky Bar in the fridge!)
I don't really expect him to get much else though as I think that grandarents are buying him gifts...which is a whole other battle!

MrsMagooo · 06/04/2009 14:55

B

So far my 8 month old DS has 4 rather large Easter Eggs - needless to say I shall be eating them all

charitygirl · 06/04/2009 14:58

On a similar note, who thinks a 6 monther (been doing BLW-ing for four weeks) is old enough for choc at Easter?

I have a feeling my MIL may buy him an egg or choc of some shape and I want to know can I squirrel it away for myself without giving him any or is that overly precious.

6 months seems too young to me for all the weird stuff that is in the crappy cheap choc we give kids, never mind the sugar, but what do others think?

MrsMagooo · 06/04/2009 15:00

Everyone is different charitygirl but personally I wouldn't.

My DS is 8 months & won't be giving him chocolate just yet

MarlaSinger · 06/04/2009 15:08

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sail73 · 06/04/2009 15:22

I too have happy memories of easter eggs at easter but not at 16 months ! Personally I don't remember 16 months! This is why imo 3 (ds1s age) is about right. He knows now about Easter eggs and that they are given on Easter day. He is old enough to be excited about Sunday and isn't anticipation half the fun? He's know what he'd be missing if he had none. Preschool has alot to answer for! As far as I know though none of the above apply to ds2. To him Sunday will be just another day to him.

We had this with ds1 when he was about 18 months. We told them often enough before hand. I remember them getting quite exhasperated with us when dh reminded them about a week before hand not to buy any eggs. They said yes we know we're not going to don't worry. However on Easter Sunday we were at dh's uncles 60 birthday party and they presented us with ds1s Thomas egg. Felt so awkward in front of people that we accepted it. However I ate it without a shred of guilt because I felt we had made it clear enough. Did feel guilty however when mil kept asking (over the phone) if I'd given him any yet and if he'd enjoyed it and dh lied!! Couldn't help thinking had I done the right thing!

The reasons they gave us at the time for giving ds an egg were we couldn't buy eggs for the other dgc and not him, they couldn't resist it and it was so tiny he's hardly notice he's eating it!!! LOL! Anyway pil go in for easter egg giving in a major way they give to all 3 grown up dc (dh included although they make it clear its for sharing with me!) their dgc even though they are teens and 20s, their neice and nephew (aged 15 and 17) even each other! So its obviously a really big deal to them. Otoh my parents stopped giving eggs whenn I was a teenager and don't give to the dgc but give small presents instead.

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sail73 · 06/04/2009 15:34

I meant my parents don't give easter eggs to dgc but give small presents instead! Also am aware I spelt neice wrong!

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lizziemun · 06/04/2009 15:47

If it makes you feel any better MIL's has bought ds

1 button egg
1 lindt rabbit
1 chocolate chicken.

DS will be 4 weeks on easter saturday.

MrsMagooo · 06/04/2009 15:49

PMSL Lizzie ah your MIL sounds like she's going to provide some fun presents in the future

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sail73 · 06/04/2009 15:51

rofl!!!

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ChocFudgeCake · 06/04/2009 16:33

I always eat most of the Easter egg (and party bag stuff). I give a little to the children and they are grateful, I am grateful and the giver is content Except by the time I started to eat it while the giver was still there, she had a bit of a shock and said "That's for the children" and I told her "Sure, but they couldn't possibly eat it all, want some?"

kingprawnjalfrezi · 06/04/2009 16:36

My 8mnth old was given a lindt chocolate bunny by my aunt yesterday. I told her he was too young but I would help him with it. There you go - no lies or guilt - we're all happy.