to not want DH to go away for a night

[MmeLindt]

We are planning on going to the PIL's at the weekend for a week. This week SIL and her family are visiting us for a week. I get on ok with SIL but find it quite trying to have them here so long. DH is working this week so only here in the evenings.

DH said this morning that he wants to go to Munich for a night next week to visit colleagues. I don't want him to go as I want us to spend more time together as a family. He would be away one night, but it would mean that Tuesday and Wednesday would be gone. (it is a 3 hour drive from PILs to Munich)

Two weekends ago he was at his parents for a weekend (this was planned before we realised we would all be going to his parents this week) which I was quite happy about.

Next Saturday (so the last weekend of our holiday) we have been invited to a wedding in Frankfurt, which I am going to alone. DH will stay at PILs with the DC, he does not want to come to the wedding.

The first weekend in May, I have some friends coming to stay and DH will take the DC camping.

In June I am going to Scotland for a weekend for my SILs henny night.

I feel that we are spending a lot of time apart at the moment, which is something we did last year and we had a big relationship crisis due to that and other issues.

Now, writing it down, I see that I am going away a lot more than he is. I don't really know if I am being unreasonable or not.

I don't think one night away with work is a big deal to be honest and you'd be unreasonable to ask him not to go.

However you do perhaps need to keep better track of time apart to prevent too much of it happening if it has a detrimental effect on your relationship.

It is not work, it is colleagues he is visiting privately.

I think I am being unreasonable. I will let him go.

Was this the shortest AIBU thread in the history of MN?

Sometimes it just helps to write it down.

Thanks.

You cant really say you dont want him to go away without sounding unreasonable.
It will be like you are saying you dont like being apart from him unless its you off doing something you want to do.
Perhaps you could either compromise and cancel something of yours too or make an effort to do something nice while he is away so it goes wuickly and then make lots of plans to spend good quality time together in between trips away?

i love the way you quickly talked yourself round!

ha ha!

This is literally the best AIBU thread, ever.

OP - AIBU?

One response - YABU

OP - you are right, IABU. Thank you.

MmeLindt - I love you.

I cannot even blame it on hormones as I have just finished my period. Could it be PostMT? Does that exist?

You've made me giggle - which was very important as I've got a crappy cold, thankyou - you're brilliant!

FWIW I don't think you were being unreasonable at all.

I'd be furious if my DH dumped me at his parents and then went off elsewhere for two days.

I must be really unreasonable

His parents are actually lovely but I will have to watch German Volksmusik with them so maybe I am not BU to not let him go.

We have a dog now, so I can always escape with the excuse of having to walk her.

Glad I was able to cheer you up a bit, Brightongirl. Can you get Lemsip downunder?