to want to be a princess for a day or two?

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I am a working mum of two (age 4 and 18 months) and I was listening to the radio today an some music from James Bond came on. It made me think of previous romantic encounters where I felt so amazing and carefree and I ached to be back there. My baby then walked in to the kitchen and wanted to dance and I snapped out of it and enjoyed dancing with her.

Do you get moments like that when you want more than you have? Do you feel guilty for it? I would never have an affair and love my children beyond measure but sometimes I look at young women going out and feel so jealous of them in so many ways. When my MIL takes the kids (once every six weeks) I find it harder to go back to being a mum and I feel resentful of all of the chores.

I love being a mum and a home maker but I would love to be up on a pedestal, to feel carefree and really special and glamorous. I spend so much trying to make my daughter's life special and I just want a turn to be the princess. Am I a spoilt prima donna or do you feel the same?

what do you do when you're not being a mum?
Do you have hobbies, time in the evenings/weekends to go out with friends?

That is probably half the problem. I have a demanding job and after the kids go to bed, so do I because I am shattered! DD2 does not sleep properly yet so I watch tv or sleep (I am normally gone before 10). My DH is doing a masters degree and training for an ultra marathon so he is out at least 4 times a week although he assures me the end is in sight! I don't want to sit here moaning because my life is pretty good - I think it is just the longing for a carefree life that I miss. I have some fantastic friends and I try to go out once a month.

you need to have more fun - sounds like a bit of a constant slog at the mo.

What do you do on weekends? Do you have days out as a family? Does your dh ever take kids out to give you time to yourself?

What kind of things do you enjoy doing?

I appreciate you are tired in the evenings and with dc not yet properly sleeping - exhaustion just makes it all worse.

and could you try arranging time to be a pampered princess for a couple of days? Take time off work maybe and stay with a friend - or if the budget stretches go away for a weekend to a B&B by yourself. Could your dh take time off to look after the kids.

Also how much time do you and your dh get together?

definitely need more fun! DH will occasionally take the kids but the cost is that I come back and he is wound up the kids are running wild and the house is a scene of devastation! Something has to give really. Think I need to stop being a martyr and book that spa break!

definitely need more fun! DH will occasionally take the kids but the cost is that I come back and he is wound up the kids are running wild and the house is a scene of devastation! Something has to give really. Think I need to stop being a martyr and book that spa break!

I think sometimes we all get stuck in a rut that we don't enjoy.

Trick is to realise and to stand back and find something you can change to make it easier. Whether it's a one off spa holiday or a once a week event.

No point living life if you don't enjoy it (at least most the time)