to want to be a princess for a day or two?

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estobi1 · 05/04/2009 21:35

I am a working mum of two (age 4 and 18 months) and I was listening to the radio today an some music from James Bond came on. It made me think of previous romantic encounters where I felt so amazing and carefree and I ached to be back there. My baby then walked in to the kitchen and wanted to dance and I snapped out of it and enjoyed dancing with her.

Do you get moments like that when you want more than you have? Do you feel guilty for it? I would never have an affair and love my children beyond measure but sometimes I look at young women going out and feel so jealous of them in so many ways. When my MIL takes the kids (once every six weeks) I find it harder to go back to being a mum and I feel resentful of all of the chores.

I love being a mum and a home maker but I would love to be up on a pedestal, to feel carefree and really special and glamorous. I spend so much trying to make my daughter's life special and I just want a turn to be the princess. Am I a spoilt prima donna or do you feel the same?

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TheArmadillo · 05/04/2009 21:38

what do you do when you're not being a mum?
Do you have hobbies, time in the evenings/weekends to go out with friends?

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estobi1 · 05/04/2009 21:45

That is probably half the problem. I have a demanding job and after the kids go to bed, so do I because I am shattered! DD2 does not sleep properly yet so I watch tv or sleep (I am normally gone before 10). My DH is doing a masters degree and training for an ultra marathon so he is out at least 4 times a week although he assures me the end is in sight! I don't want to sit here moaning because my life is pretty good - I think it is just the longing for a carefree life that I miss. I have some fantastic friends and I try to go out once a month.

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TheArmadillo · 05/04/2009 22:01

you need to have more fun - sounds like a bit of a constant slog at the mo.

What do you do on weekends? Do you have days out as a family? Does your dh ever take kids out to give you time to yourself?

What kind of things do you enjoy doing?

I appreciate you are tired in the evenings and with dc not yet properly sleeping - exhaustion just makes it all worse.

TheArmadillo · 05/04/2009 22:03

and could you try arranging time to be a pampered princess for a couple of days? Take time off work maybe and stay with a friend - or if the budget stretches go away for a weekend to a B&B by yourself. Could your dh take time off to look after the kids.

Also how much time do you and your dh get together?

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estobi1 · 05/04/2009 22:11

definitely need more fun! DH will occasionally take the kids but the cost is that I come back and he is wound up the kids are running wild and the house is a scene of devastation! Something has to give really. Think I need to stop being a martyr and book that spa break!

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estobi1 · 05/04/2009 22:11

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TheArmadillo · 05/04/2009 22:18

I think sometimes we all get stuck in a rut that we don't enjoy.

Trick is to realise and to stand back and find something you can change to make it easier. Whether it's a one off spa holiday or a once a week event.

No point living life if you don't enjoy it (at least most the time)

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