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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

in not wanting to go and make DH a fishfinger sarnie?

23 replies

fruitbeard · 05/04/2009 21:13

A little background - he has been quite ill with a chest infection that saw him hospitalised for a week. However he has now been home for a week and returned to work.

He is wheezing and blowing when he has to move around the house so I have been doing a bit more for him than I normally would.

Now the AIBU bit... I asked him at 4pm what he wanted for dinner tonight, giving him 3 options. He ummed and ahhed and couldn't make his mind up, saying that what he really fancied was a chinese. I said fine, but as I'd been out at his stepmother-to-be's hen night the evening before which was at a chinese restaurant, I didn't want any so he could order for himself.

"Oh, they won't deliver if it's a small order. Forget it, I'm really not very hungry."

I cooked for DD and myself and he was again offered some dinner. "No, I'm really not hungry. I fancy something though..."

I then asked him if he wanted a fishfinger sandwich. He said no, he was fed up with bread (I suspect while I was out last night he consumed a large quantity of sarnies rather than cooking for himself as the loaf was 3/4 gone this morning).

That was 2 hours ago. I am happily MNing and catching up with the Apprentice on iPlayer.

He comes into the living room, collapses on the sofa doing heavy breathing and says in wheedling tones "d'you know, that fishfinger sandwich is sounding really good right now...?"

So IABU to ignore him (as I'm currently doing)? Or should I be a good wifey and get up and make him one (and yes, in the time it's taken me to type this I could probably have made the damn thing but it's the principle of it all!)?

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LauriefairycakeeatsCupid · 05/04/2009 21:15

make it shit

then you won't have to do it again

differentEggD · 05/04/2009 21:15

I'd tell him tough- too late. HE'll have to do it himself now.

AnyFuckerStealsHerKidsEggs · 05/04/2009 21:15

if he wants a fishfinger sarnie, he can make his own

end of

babybarrister · 05/04/2009 21:17

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BitOfFunnyBunny · 05/04/2009 21:18

Oh go and pamper him a little bit, you meanie

NeedCoffee · 05/04/2009 21:19

welllllllllll technically yanbu but i'd probably go do it just to be nice, would he do it for you?
make me one while you're at it, theres a love

ellingwoman · 05/04/2009 21:19

Stick to your guns. The cafe closed two hours ago. Tough

TheSynOddOneOfWhitby · 05/04/2009 21:20

My DH was out last night at a stag do and i was in hospital for a week last week - i've just asked him to make me the fishfinger sarnie i didn't fancy earlier - he said no!

Reverse the rolls!

theDreadPirateRabbits · 05/04/2009 21:20

He's well enough to go to work
He's had 3 chances to eat without doing something himself

YANBU.

And if you give in now you're only making a rod for your own back

TheSynOddOneOfWhitby · 05/04/2009 21:20

Or even roles (although you could do rolls instead of a sarnie).

theDreadPirateRabbits · 05/04/2009 21:21

Synod - you are deserving of extra care!

LobstersLass · 05/04/2009 21:23

Oh go on, make one for him. It sounds like he's been really ill.

I know it's irritating it's taken him this long to make up his mind, but it's not as if he's asked for anything complicated. He needs to eat something.

fruitbeard · 05/04/2009 21:23

TSOOOW - tell your DH if he makes one for you, I'll do one for Mr FB...

TBH it's not the making of the sarnie that's the issue, it's the oblique way of asking for one - if he'd said sorry for being an indecisive git earlier on, please may I have a fishfinger sandwich -oh- -Goddess- -of- -Gorgeousness- , then I might have been better disposed towards him...

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fruitbeard · 05/04/2009 21:24

Damn my inability to do crossings out!!!

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NeedCoffee · 05/04/2009 21:27

hmmm have decided that you are in fact being unreasonable for posting this thread as i now need a ff sandwhich and have to get off my lazy bum and make myself one!

fruitbeard · 05/04/2009 21:28
Grin
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ravenAK · 05/04/2009 21:31

Id make him one & note it, highlighted, on the Marital Balance Sheet of Favours (ie. big lie in whilst he does kids' breakfast next weekend...)

stoppinattwo · 05/04/2009 21:41

make one if you want to make one....if you dont want to make one then dont ...its not a case of if you offered before he should have piped up then, the fact is he didnt fancy one then but now does fancy one, but if you dont feel like making it then that doesnt make you a bad person...........but it would still be a nice thing to do for someone, even if they have been sick or not, putting yourself out for someone isnt making a rod for your own back, it is just being nice to be nice

fruitbeard · 05/04/2009 21:50

Well, I caved.

When I went to make a cup of tea, I saw that he'd emptied all the bins while I'd been out collecting lino offcuts (long story involving hideously complicated amdram set) so I melted (no will power!) and decided to be nice.

And those were the last of the fishfingers and now I want one!!!

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NeedCoffee · 05/04/2009 22:03

new you would.

mines yummy

NeedCoffee · 05/04/2009 22:04

knew

Mumcentreplus · 05/04/2009 22:09
Mumcentreplus · 05/04/2009 22:11

don't be evil ...make him one...

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