AIBU to think DP should stop dabbling with drugs?

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DP (early 30s) came home at 9am after a friend's bday party looking wrecked, sheepish and . 'jesus, you alright' I ask. 'no. I tried ketamine. I can't remember the last 4 hours' ... that was apparently on top of booze and some coke. we are going to start TTC in a few weeks. AIBU to think he should now agree that his (admittedly occasional) recreational drug days are over?? or am I being rose-tinted to expect him to stop completely?

Salleroo - seems justified, why not the fridge than anywhere else really?!

Have you seen the other thread that is going at the moment regarding drug use?

I have never done drugs, never will, have never felt the urge really. I am probably significantly older and infinitely more boring than others on this thread but hey..

I found Saleroo's post a bit weird - sorry - that she understood not taking drugs in the first year but "you do have lives too" like not taking drugs ever again would have a truly negative impact on your life

I really don't think taking drugs and parenting are compatible. I just think if people realised the price paid in human lives of drug trafficking they would think twice before taking them. I have worked with Jamaican women who won't see their kids for the next 20 years because they're in HMP for swallowing cocaine. And all because people here can't enjoy themselves without getting high...

Depressing really.

Sorry, rant over, will leave now.

I'm a bit non-plussed about drug taking too, I know some people can just 'dabble' and then be totally efficient, loving partners/parents at other times...

It just doens't seem WHOLESOME to me though, something very un-holistic about the need to get blasted on a chemical cocktail every-now-and-then.

I may be in the minority here, and I've had to cope with a partner with a serious dependency in the past so may be biased but to answer OP, You Are Not in my humble opinion Being in any way Unreasonable to want your partner to give up dabbling in drugs now you are planning to have a family.

My OH used to be a heavy coke user and 2 years ago decided to stop. I can't stress enough how much it alters the users personality. There is NO way I would be having this baby with him were he still using.

People seem to think it's something you can just take or leave but trust me when it comes to stopping there are long term consequences.

It sounds like your fella values the opinion on his mates a bit too much?

I think I have heard it all now, E's in the fridge
thats surely a joke no?