to need a nap and leave dd with dh?

[LucyTownsend]

I spent the day helping my friend to move into her new house, dd was with me in the morning and with MIL in the afternoon.

Im 19 weeks pg and feeling fine pretty much all of the time - being pg doesnt normally affect me till about 30 weeks tiredness wise.

However, after helping my friend today I was really tired. I came home at 5ish with dd and felt pretty tired. Dh was half asleep on the sofa after a hard day at work (he is a plumber). I said I needed a nap, that I was really tired and went off to bed for an hours nap.

Dh just said to me that he thought that it was unfair that I left him with dd as he was tired too! That he has to get up at 5.30 and needs the sleep and he didnt appreciate me leaving dd with him when he was trying to sleep first!

So - was I bu to leave dd with him and have a nap?!

YANBU

For goodness sake he's your dd's DAD!!!! He can have her whilst you nap.

Just read this to dh and he said
'he sounds like a right nob...'

Your dh isn't the only one to have a long day...

I am 26 weeks prgt with ds 3. I have been looking after ds 2 17 months (non-walked has to be carried) and ds 5 -on half term for three weeks) I am knackered... dh can;t help in the day so he's having them at the weekend so I can study. I didn't have to ask his permission, feel guilty for asking, we're a family and as such we help each other out.

TBH, I think 5 o'clock is a ridiculous time for a nap. You should have both got things done together (dinner, bath your DD, whatever) and then both had an early night.

If DH and I are both so tired we're falling asleep we share the jobs.
The 'who's tiredest' argument gets out of hand IMO.

I dunno... 5.30 must be a killer, though I know how awful tiredness wise being pregnant can be. Being 5, unless you were dropping I guess you both could have done dinner/bed/bath quickly then got to bed. Neither of you were BU I guess.

I think if this is everyday then fair enough but when you're prgt sometimes you just can't help coming over all tired and if dh is at home why should you have to soldier on??

DD had already had dinner and she has her baths in the morning. She goes to bed at 7 so he just had to keep her entertained for 1 hour while I was sleeping.

I sat down on the sofa when I brought her in and it hit me all of a sudden and I just felt bone tired and couldn't carry on.

DD is 14 months and very independent, she will play happily on the floor, snuggle on the sofa etc but just keeping my eyes open felt impossible!

Fair enough. Its hard to tell who is BU without knowing you both.

Me and my Dh are both often very unreasonable when we're tired! We even have agreements to get round it...for example, we disregard any arguments that happen in the night, or very early in the morning!

When you have LOs, the tiredness is the worst thing I think. Obviously you're both going to feel like you were the most tired! Have a snuggle on the sofa together and forget it is my advice!