To want to slap this silly silly girl.

[deanychip]

well, i am bieng unreasonable and a bit oversensitive but dear God are all teanage girls this crappy????

So 1st appointment with the gynae doc yesterday for years of infertility and problems.

stood at the desk to book in in a very full, very busy gynae waiting room.
Girl in school uniform in front of me shouts across at another girl...."wot you doin ere, you pregnant?"

No answer.

Silly girl "cos i am" floods of giggling from silly girl and the mother who was stood proudly next to the girl.

sigh.
life is so unfair and shite sometimes.

Believe me the girl on my ward was not suffering at all.

I had an unexpected pg(my dd) 6 months after having my twins when we had several other huge life events going on too, I give thanks daily for it so I do know what unplanned pg is like.

I'm in no way judging anybody who has an abortion, I am judging however people who work for the NHS that think it's OK to put women who will clearly be suffering in upsetting situations.

Forgot to say Deany I had my FET ICSI twins after 7 years of fertility treatment, dd somehow came along naturally after. DP and I between us must have every fertility problem goingso there definately is hope.

I'm sorry but I don't accept that because one woman bizarrely 'celebrated' her abortion (I have never heard of this in my life), the NHS should separate women who have terminations from women who 'are suffering'.

I think it's fair to assume that anybody who finds themselves in an NHS ward may be suffering, and that women with fertility issues are equal to any other patient.

I totally accept that you found it upsetting, but with respect, you were having a very upsetting time anyway, due to what had happened. You could have walked out of the hospital at the end straight into a woman pushing a pram with a big smile on her face. Or read a magazine with 'I've got ten kids' in it. Life just isn't fair like that, and it isn't the fault of the NHS.

Excuse me you weren't in my situation, it made the whole thing 10 times worse it was awful. It affected the girl in the other bed deeply too. I've faced babies in prams many times it was nothing compared to being on that ward.

The girl was celebrating, there were discussions about where they were all going for a drink after to celebrate.

Life isn't fair but the NHS should try at least to not increase a person's suffering. I would have gladly sat/slept in a broom cupboard rather than sit in waiting rooms filled with pregnant people and sleep on a ward like the one that I did.

My mother and dp were very worried about my me during that time and frequently asked why I couldn't be moved to the empty rooms that were available. There was no reason why.

I think the issue is that people who are suffering from fertility problems or who are suffering m/c and stillbirth need to be treated sensitively - and certainly not put in a waiting room with happily or even unhappily pregnant women - regardless of their age and circumstances.