I'm getting married in a few weeks' time. Yesterday, two fairly close friends (who had each previously said they would attend the wedding) emailed me to tell me they had changed their minds and now couldn't make it. One of them is going abroad for the weekend (to visit an old work colleague and to see a military parade while there) and the other is playing in a sports tournament (apparently she didn't mention it before because she didn't think her team would qualify - now that they have, she feels can't let them down by not playing in the tournament). I have replied to both to tell them that we are, naturally, disappointed they can't be there but it's fine (which it really isn't, but I don't see what is to be gained by saying anything else) but AIBU to feel a bit let down by all this, especially as they had both previously said they would be coming?
Also, AIBU to feel that their reasons for not attending are a bit lame? I get that no-one else is going to care about my wedding as much as I do, but this makes me feel like they don't care very much at all. Obviously it's their choice if they come or not, but if I had said I'd attend a close friend's wedding and then later found that it clashed with something else I wanted to do, I would stick with the original plan - this just feels like they are not coming anymore because would prefer to do, rather than having to do, something else...