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AIBU?

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To have asked this lady to not keep on about the nasty lady

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IwishIwasmorechocolatey · 30/03/2009 20:54

DS1 is 3.5 and had his MMR booster this afternoon.

We got to the clinic nice and early as it's a first come first served clinic. We were 6th in line, the 5 in front of us were all babies.

A Grandmother brought her Grandson (who was 4 or 5 months old I would guess) for his jabs and every time a baby came out crying (as they all do) she was saying to her Grandson, "oh that poor baby's upset because that nasty lady hurt him/her. They'll soon be alright though after a good sleep/feed" He was far too young to understand her, as was the majority of the rest of the waiting room, but my ds obviously wasn't and he was getting more and more worked up every time she said it.

After the 3rd time, I asked her if she could stop saying that out loud as it was making my ds more anxious.

She replied that she was only telling her Grandson the truth and if my ds didn't know what to expect then of course he was going to be anxious!

I was gobsmacked! I had explained to my ds what to expect and he was pretty ok about the whole thing until this lady started up.

She then changed what she was saying to, "that baby's upset because his/her leg hurts from his/her injections" - not a lot better in my book!

My DH thinks I should have just kept quiet, but I think she was being a bit unreasonable in what she was saying and what I said was ok. What do you think?

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tessofthedurbervilles · 30/03/2009 20:57

Why not say something? We all seem to bite our tongue too much these days....if she was bothering you then say so.

Sidge · 30/03/2009 20:58

I used to be a practice nurse who did the vaccination clinics and despaired of the comments that we were 'nasty nurses'.

Not helpful for anyone IMO, least of all the children who then completely freak every time they see a nurse's uniform.

I think she needed telling that she was being insensitive.

TweetleBeetle · 30/03/2009 20:58

No I think you were right to say something, if her GS didn't understand what the hell was she telling him for, and as for calling ther nurse a nasty lady - nice.

When I take my DD's for jabs I explain that it may hurt a little bit but it will make sure that they don't get any nasty horrible germs that will make them really sick - oh and I also give them a small bag of jely babies!

JodieO · 30/03/2009 20:59

Well, it was true about the hurt from the injections I assume.

Gentle · 30/03/2009 21:00

I think a 3.5 year old's need to steel himself quietly for his injections wipes the floor with a Grandma's need to say the same thing to her linguistically undeveloped grandson 4 times.

Perhaps she added that 4th time just to annoy you though?

ChippingIn · 30/03/2009 21:06

of course YABU

not to have lamped her!!

Stupid, stupid woman. What a daft thing to have said to her own Grandson (luckily he's too young to understand but even so...) but to have said it with your child listening.... what an idiot.

I felt bad taking LO for her injection as I had prepared her for it, but forgot it was in both arms, when I had to turn her around for the other arm she was NOT happy... still, the promise of some chocolate buttons soon fixed it

As for your DH - most of them are a bit like that aren't they, don't like a fuss. Doesn't make us wrong though

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IwishIwasmorechocolatey · 30/03/2009 21:06

tessofthedurbervilles I dod say someting to her!
Tweetlebeetle, that was pretty much what I'd told my ds and he was acceping that it would hurt a bit at the time but it was to stop him from getting poorly. He knew there were some chocolate buttons in my bag for after too!

Yes gentle I think she might have done!

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IwishIwasmorechocolatey · 30/03/2009 21:07

Thanks chippingin

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carrielou2007 · 30/03/2009 21:15

Umn, I read exactly the same thread about a month ago about a dad saying this to his child in a GP surgery loudly in the waiting room (am rubbish as links if someone could find it please?) are you the same person? Your post seems almost word for word the same??

HecAteTheEasterBunny · 30/03/2009 21:17

no, you were totally right! The nurse was in no way 'nasty'! and it was a stupid thing to say.

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IwishIwasmorechocolatey · 30/03/2009 21:23

carrielou2007 No, it wasn't me. Luckily I've not been in this situation before.

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ChocFudgeCake · 30/03/2009 22:33

YANBU I think I would have said something to. And then added to my son, aloud "There is no nasty lady, darling, just the good nurse who will give you your injection as I explaines before".

madlentileater · 30/03/2009 22:43

You are so not unreasonable.
I would have been tempted to start talking to ds about mad old bats sometimes grown ups get a bit confused, ds, and forget about how the nice nurses are there to HELP us even tho it might hurt for a little bit and to help you be brave you can be thinking about the chocolate buttons.
actually I clicked on this because 'the nasty lady' was the name we called Thatcher when DS1 was tiny

heather1980 · 30/03/2009 23:06

yanbu. i hate this. when we took ds for his jabs i had to take my toddler dd. i just told her that the nice lady was giving ds a medicine to stop him from getting sick, but it was ok if he cried coz it hurts a little bit.
a few weeks later she had an injection and i told her the same thing and she was fine.

i would have had something to say if i was there

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