Is this laziness or am I being pushy?

[SheekLaSheak]

I do a lot of writing.

A man I have been seeing for a few weeks now keeps asking to read something that I've written and although I've not intentionally put him off, I've just never had anything "ready" to be read by someone else.

Then last night over MSN I said to him "I have a short piece I've written if you fancy reading it?"

He said "I'd love to"

So I sent him it. I mean, this piece was like two paragraphs or so, would have taken less than 5 minutes to read.

10 minutes later, after I'm sat there thinking he's reading it he sends me a message saying "I can't view that on this PC, send me it again and I'll save it to my memory stick and read it downstairs on the laptop" so I sent it again ... he said "brb"

So 10 minutes later, again after me thinking he's downstairs reading it he sends me another message saying "Thanks, I'll read it tomorow"

It really pissed me off for some reason! AIBU?

the thing is, it means FAR more to you then it does to him. He probably doesn't have a clue how important it is to you, that you are waiting for his opinion on it.

YABabitU. Relax.

Maybe he was distracted and wanted to be able to give the piece his full attention (as I imagine you're going to ask him for feedback).

Or maybe he's not really that interested, but was doing the usual first date thing of trying to seem interested in you and in things you do.

With regards to your , what format did yuo send it in?

Letting someone read your work is a bit like exposing yourself naked when you've not shaved your legs. That makes you anxious !

I understand you being pissed off completely. But at the same time, he's not to know !

I'd have been pissed off too. Especially as you went to the trouble of sending it and it was only short.
Agree with Belgo he didnt realise how important to you it was. Men are a bit thick sometimes.

I would be a bit off too, but maybe as has been said does he know how much this means to you? If he doesn't, then he is not being deliberately insensitive is he.

This is exactly why I won't tell anybody how to find the stuff that I write! I would say that either he is just having issues with his computer, especially if he hasn't updated his windows subscription (speaking as the voice of experience ) or he just didn't realise that it would mean so much to you. It feels like such a big issue, and it is, it takes a lot of trust to let people read your stuff (I don't know what kind of writing you do?) so I suppose it would feel a bit of a letdown if you have built yourself up to just showing him in the first place. I am sure he will be grovelling with his appreciation later

I would be annoyed too, especially since he has been asking to read something from you

Dont even let on that you are annoyed, dont mention it and dont send him anything you write again

I disagree with VinegarTits. If he comes back having obviosuly read it thoroughly and thought about it and makes nice comments (not just 'it's really good' but ones that show a bit of thought) then you should definitely show him more stuff. But be prepared that he might not drop everything to read it

If he seems to nt have read it, or not appreciated it, then don't show him any more. If you;re talking about what you'fve been doing and he asks just say 'I don't think it's really your kind of thing'. Then only show it to him once he's proven that he actually cares.