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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to knock on my n'bours door & tell them to shut up having sex

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kylesmyloveheart · 29/03/2009 22:52

dont think i am but need some advice.

new neighbours bedroom is next to mine. 2 or 3 nights a week im woken to screams of '' my harder''. and just general over the top pants, ahhh, ahhh. AAARRRR!!

i get up and it follows me round entire flat. ive been dreading ds 7 hearing it as we share bunk beds in the room.

the neighbours before them were sexually active. the guy would often bring people back and never once did i hear a thing.

was reading with ds and i could hear the bed going her screaming him panting and i felt sick in my stomach. couldn't concentrate and thought this has got to stop - have some respect ffs.

so went round and knocked loads of times on the door. he come out with just towel and dripping wet. all i said was 'mate my son is the other side of that wall'. 'oh sorry i didnt realise' he said.

i am mortified that i have to face them again.

how do other people cope this this?

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HecAteTheEasterBunny · 30/03/2009 09:33

I agree with music idea. Kids songs are great - or there must be something really funny to play that would fit the occasion? Trying to think of a song, but my mind has gone blank!

lou33 · 30/03/2009 09:35

the hokey cokey would be good

mamadiva · 30/03/2009 09:48

LOL, birdie song.

By the sound of it he looks like a shaved bird anyway.

lou33 · 30/03/2009 09:49

agadoo?

andreax · 30/03/2009 10:09

i'm liking the shouting comments on their staying power... have to say would be enough to stop me mid flow so hopefully will work for them.

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kylesmyloveheart · 30/03/2009 18:33

i saw her this morning and she didn't even mention it. as embarrassing as it would be she should have come over and said something.

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CrackopentheBaileys · 30/03/2009 18:44

oh you so need to play 'I'm too sexy' by Right Said Fred. Every time. They should get the hint!

Also, I would put a note throught their door, and keep a copy for yourself. You may need proof in future. And if possible, keep a diary of dates, times etc. Rank I know, but I often hear of people being asked to do that my EH

Best of luck

ABetaDad · 30/03/2009 20:20

You know that scene in Four Weddings and a Funeral when Hugh Grant accidentally gets in the bedroom cupboard and is forced to sit there listening to the newly marrieds consumate their marriage in the bedroom. That is exactly how I felt with the 'love birds' upstairs. I had the same look on my face as well .

I just lay there in bed at 3.00 a.m winceing and biting my pillow.

alicet · 30/03/2009 20:58

Yes. Not sure I would want to explain what 'fuck my arse' was to my sons.

Think you've handled it really well though. see if they quieten down after that. If not then maybe try the option of recording them and then playing it to them and saying 'would you like to explain that to a 7 year old boy?' (sorry can't remember who suggested that - genius)

Slightly concerned that her exhibitionism in wandering about the kitchen in full view with her tits out will mean this will only turn them on more though....

CrackopentheBaileys · 30/03/2009 21:09

hmmm biting your pillow eh ABetaDad?

DSM · 30/03/2009 21:17

This happened to me once..

I am admittedly not the quietest shagger in the world, but our neighbours above (old tenament flats so very thick walls) complained about the noise. We thought they meant the music so made a conscious effort to keep the music volume down when it was on.

We got a note through the door one day asking us to keep our 'lovemaking' down.

Another time, a friend of ours came to visit and he was downstairs in the street, and he could hear us. He waited 'til we had finished to buzz up.

At the time we weren't overly embarrassed, but to think now, the neighbours had children.

ABetaDad · 30/03/2009 21:19

You have no idea how relieved I was when they finished. I was almost sharing in their after glow!

thederkinsdame · 30/03/2009 21:44

Kyles, that's awful. I'm sure there are laws about the right to peacefully enjoy your home. I would get the local council involved if it happens again. With the flashing and the loud screms she sounds like a complete exhibitionist. What a weirdo.

I can sympathis as we had the guy from hell move in to the flat above us. He was in his 60s and really creepy. Every Friday and Sunday he used to bring a woman home at 2pm on the dot. By 2.20 he would be screaming so loud you could hear him out in the car park. She left an hour later. We were convinced he paid her and she was doinf something unmentionable as they were screams of pain rather than pleasure.

CharleeInSpring · 30/03/2009 21:56

God that would drive me mad, very brave of you to say something though, I would complain to a higher power, council or landlord or something, it really isn't on if it were music or something they were playing loudly you would complain so surely this is noise pollution to?!

It would make me cringe and i would be really angry at my DCs hearing it.

foxinsocks · 30/03/2009 21:59

house next door is rented

we have had 2 VERY loud sets of shagging neighbours

and now we have a baby who doesn't sleep

The only hope I can give you is that both loud shagging couples split up amd moved out toute suite.

So I have a theory, the louder you scream, the quicker you fall. Let's hope it applies to your new neighbours .

foxinsocks · 30/03/2009 22:00

ooh look, abetadad's experience proves my theory!

katiepotatie · 30/03/2009 22:13

We used to hear our neighbour getting, spanked , whipped and all sorts accompanied by wailing and screaming...they had the cheek to complain once my dh was playing electric guitar!...dh said " i've never once complained when my poor pregnant wife can't sleep from all your sexual shenanigans!"
They were very quiet after that and moved out shortly after!

ABetaDad · 30/03/2009 22:15

I don't want to be rude or crude but I hope you all will not mind me asking this:

Is it in any way 'normal' for a woman to yelp like a wounded dog for the final 30 minutes or so?

DSM · 30/03/2009 22:23

If she is yelping like a wounded dog, she probably wants you to hurry the fuck up.

lou33 · 30/03/2009 23:32

you should put a note through her door saying " i taught your bf that thing you like"

lou33 · 30/03/2009 23:34

abetadad, are you asking for yourself or a friend?

ABetaDad · 31/03/2009 07:45

Its just that we actually moved to a new block of flats this year because me and my wife found the whole episode as upsetting as the OP. The new block we live in is full of pensioners and is quiet as a grave. We are the youngest people there and suits out constitution much better.

I just wanted to check we are not turning in to a couple of wrinkly old prunes/prudes.

foxinsocks · 31/03/2009 07:51

lol lou

well there are all sorts of normal aren't there

it is certainly inconsiderate screaming the place down night after night where the walls are thin

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