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to still be tearful 5 days after giving birth?

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pink76 · 29/03/2009 12:01

Still crying at the most daft stuff and it's getting on my nerves now! Any one else gone through this? Live miles from my family and living with fiancees parents so it's quite hard at the moment.

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KHS · 29/03/2009 21:25

I crieda ll day, every day for three weeks after my twins were born. DH helpfully wondered if I 'might have PND'. Thanks, darling! I didn't - this is what's called the baby blues and it is completely normal.!

notquitenormal · 29/03/2009 21:32

I day five I was feeling fine and took myself off for a nice relaxing bath. DP brought me a cup of tea, but when I came to drink it I completely missed my mouth and spilt it all over myself.

Promtly burst into tears and sat there grizzling for a good half hour.

DP came to see what was wrong and I just held my cup up and blubbed at him.

Took about 6 weeks to stop doing stuff like that.

pooka · 29/03/2009 21:36

Oh blimey! I think days 3 - 18 with dd were just non-stop tear-fests.

Definitely felt as tearful at 2 weeks as at 2 days. And still rather wobbly for a good couple of months. Just felt it was all a bit overwhelming.

Perked up though, thankfully.

With ds was tearful until about 2 weeks after he was born. Less severe than with dd, perhaps because I knew what I was doing. But the tears I did have mostly related to how I felt that dd was slipping away from me - that I couldn't be as focussed on her as I had been. But that passed.

Not sure how I'll feel about No. 3. Suspect that I'll feel hormonal (natch) and sad that she'll be starting a new year at school at almost the exact time the new baby arrives. So worried about her, ds's birthday (4) at the same time as well. Am hoping that will be OK but do scare myself wondering how we'll all cope and the impact it'll have on dd and ds.

MariaCC · 29/03/2009 21:38

5 days is nothing! You've just been through the hardest, most painful, most mindblowingly crazy thing ever, and frankly you're allowed a couple of weeks of un-restrained blubbing.

mumeeee · 29/03/2009 22:05

Congratulations. It is normal to be tearful. YANBU.

Meglet · 29/03/2009 22:08

5 days is the probably the worst part. Your hormones will be going crazy and trick you into feeling crap. You will feel better soon. Just take it easy.

MadamDeathstare · 29/03/2009 23:26

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ConnorTraceptive · 29/03/2009 23:33

When ds1 was 5 days old I stood at the patio doors weeping because DH had gone outside to mow the lawn

5Foot5 · 30/03/2009 13:25

I think it started for me on day 3. I looked it up in the baby book they gave me in hospital and then thought "Oh now I know what is going on I can just stop doing it". But of course I couldn't and for a whole day was in tears at every little thing!

That was the worst day but I was still emotional and easily in tears for a few weeks after IIRC

duchesse · 30/03/2009 13:34

Perfectly normal- it's yer 'ormones being all over the place. It will settle, honest!

Wigglesworth · 30/03/2009 13:42

Shit I cried for about the first 2 months at everything. YANBU at all, I felt like 5 kinds of shite after having DS for a long time afterwards.

Wigglesworth · 30/03/2009 13:45

I started sobbing uncontrollably in hospital the first night after having DS cos he had one of those nasty black tar like dumps and I couldn't clean it up properly and he was screaming his little balls off, I was very flustered and generally a mess.

MelanieLiv · 30/03/2009 13:50

My DD is 5 and I am still far more liable to weepiness now than I was before her birth. Congratulations & enjoy the bits when you're not crying!

kitbit · 30/03/2009 13:55

ohhh yes indeedy, verrrry normal. At around day 5 I was still in hospital and they brought me some food-like stuff for tea. There was a pot of yogurt and they'd brough me a dessert spoon. The spoon didn't fit into the pot so I couldn't eat it. I burst into hysterical sobs (snot, wailing, the works) and the nurses came running... they left discreetly when they realised what the problem was, leaving one elderly nun (Spanish hospital ) to sit with me and pat my shoulder until I'd finished.

Don't feel bad, just let it all out, you feel lots better afterwards and even better knowing you're not being weird!

(BTW, fiancé thinks you're being a loon? Just wait until you get to day 8 (overwhelmed day) or day 10 (he can't do anything right day) or even day 20 (nobody speak to me or I'll turn into Medusa-day)

JackBauer · 30/03/2009 14:02

Yup, day 5 is baby blues day. I was lucky in that it coincided with me coming home with DD1 after a cs. We were back about 20 minutes when teh IL's turned up to meet their first GD.
After about an hour I burst into tears and told them all (very loudly) to fuck off out of my house and leave me alone.

Enjoy (!) it, you can get away with being totally irrational for a few more days and blame it all on teh hormones

Ledodgy · 30/03/2009 14:08

Oh God yeah totally normal. I remember with dd everyday the mw came and asked how I was and I was saying 'I'm fine, really happy'. Then on around day 5 they came and asked and I burst into tears she said 'Thank God i've been waiting for this!'

Congratulations on the birth of your baby.

notyummy · 30/03/2009 14:10

Yep, as soooo many others have said...it is normal! I think my random sobbing started on day 4 and lasted until about day 6 (although continued occasionally for some time after!) I knew what it was (baby blues/hormones etc) but couldn't stop it...tiredness made it worse. I remember DH sending me to have a bath and relax whilst he looked after dd. I lay in the bath with a flannel over my face and SOBBED to him 'bbbbbbut I dont know wwwwwwhy I'm crying......waaaaahhhhh'.

This too will pass.

(and obviously if it doesn't...then come back here and we will try and help!)

MariaCC · 30/03/2009 18:57

Hahahahahahahaha (breath) hahahahahahahaha. The image of a slightly bemused Spanish nun and a snotty tear stained Kitbit not even being able to eat her sodding yoghurt has tickled me no end! Poor Kitbit.

piscesmoon · 30/03/2009 19:06

I was told it was the '5 days blues'.

poppy34 · 30/03/2009 19:08

only on day 5 - I think I was like this til about 12 weeks.

piscesmoon · 30/03/2009 19:19

I think it started around day 5 poppy, maybe day 3, it went on longer!

Gentle · 30/03/2009 19:51

YANBU at all! It is very hard and disorientating but for many women it's part of the early days of motherhood. Your body is overwhelmed, you'll have been on some kind of sleep deprivation torture, you have sore bits in unexpected ways, and your house has not magicked into a photo from Cosmo Mum.

New mums are allowed to feel overwhelmed and crap. It does pass and if it doesn't, tell your health visitor because these feelings are natural and nothing to be ashamed of.

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