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Original poster

to think it was my inheritance, my money, so I can blow it how I please?

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MrsSchadenfreude · 27/03/2009 21:55

Left to me by my grandmother, to "buy something nice or enjoy myself." So I did. I went to New York for a long weekend, shopped till I dropped, saw friends, ate in some fantastic restaurants, drank gallons of champagne and too many cosmopolitans to count. Blew the lot (well nearly all).

So should this have been counted as "our" money and not mine, and should I have bought something sensible with it which would have benefited us all like new bikes for everyone, a new car or a couple of all singing all dancing imacs?

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MrsSchadenfreude · 27/03/2009 22:14

Well really, that was what I thought, Spicemonster. I was doing as I was told!

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wannaBe · 27/03/2009 22:14

I think it also depends on how much though.

If you inherited a couple of hundred quid then perhaps spending it all on yourself would not seem that unreasonable. But considering you appear to have enough for two trips to new york I would say it s a few thousand, in which case I do think that spending it all on yourself is somewhat selfish.

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MrsSchadenfreude · 27/03/2009 22:15

And it made me so, so happy. I have been back a couple of weeks, and keep thinking about what a fab time I had, and all the things I did and the people I met!

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MrsSchadenfreude · 27/03/2009 22:16

Yes, it was a few thousand. Since you ask.

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BecauseImWorthIt · 27/03/2009 22:19

If your DH is fine about it then can't see the problem. Think your friend is just jealous.

spicemonster · 27/03/2009 22:20

I think it sounds utterly blissful to have a few thousand which you have to spend on being utterly indulgent.

Several years' ago, I got a pay off for wrongful dismissal. I decided that the entire sum must be spent frivolously. I gave chunks to my family and they had to do the same. So we all spent ludicrous amounts on fabulous outfits and it was so much fun. It is a very rare and wonderful thing to be able to do that (if you're not wealthy in which case you do that every day) that I think if you can, you should.

GossipMonger · 27/03/2009 22:21

Ahhhh, now we have the full story on the friend and her comment, no, I dont think you were BU but I would not have done what you did.

I would have shared with the family because I wanted to.

But not judging you.

LoubyLoubyLouLa · 27/03/2009 22:21

YANBU

I also inherited money and recently spent it on plastic surgery!!!!!

CarGirl · 27/03/2009 22:23

If your Dh was fully supportive then your friend def has a severe case of

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MrsSchadenfreude · 27/03/2009 22:27

I think it was a complete one off, so nice to do something frivolous. I did share with the family in a way because I bought them nice gifts from NY.

Louby - my friend tried to get me to have botox on my frown lines when I was there!

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LoubyLoubyLouLa · 27/03/2009 22:30

I don't you need botox Mrs

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MrsSchadenfreude · 27/03/2009 22:37

Do you know me?

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evansmummy · 27/03/2009 22:42

YANBU

I had inheritance from my Nanna and brother this year and spent it oon laser eye surgery. Best money I ever spent, and I know I would've been disappointed to see it spent on bills, car etc.

Glad you enjoyed it!

JodieO · 27/03/2009 23:03

Agree with Wannabe tbh, it does sound selfish to spend so much on yourself when you have a family; particularly if you don't usually have that much money. I'd far rather spend it on my family and improving all our lives rather than just my own.

ScumdogSquillionaire · 27/03/2009 23:16

Depends. Will your children be having a holiday this year? Coz I couldn't have gone knowing my kids weren't having a holiday.

cat64 · 27/03/2009 23:26

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Tortington · 27/03/2009 23:32

well if your family are oka bou it - its got shit all to do with anyone else.

hope you had a great time - and - if friend mentions anything again tell her to shit off

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MrsSchadenfreude · 28/03/2009 11:51

Cat - it was because of the comment from my friend that I posted in AIBU. Not looking for a fight at all.

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chequersmate · 28/03/2009 11:53

Strange thing to do but each to their own.

LEMAGAIN · 28/03/2009 12:23

hhmmmm, very similar thread on here the other day - only it was a man who did the blowing of the small inheritence - got a very different response. There were other considerations but it just goes to show.........

LEMAGAIN · 28/03/2009 12:24

oh, my post didnt mean i thought you were being UR - you did the right thing, glad you enjoyed - go girl

Blondeshavemorefun · 28/03/2009 12:25

obv depending on your money situation, i dont think you were wrong to spend it on your self BUT as it was a few thousand, i would have prob spent half on nice weekend away for me/friend and then other half on family stuff or towards a holiday etc

my dh got a nice sum of money the other month from his gran dying - he said he wanted to use it all to pay off some of our mortgage, i said no - i took some out of our joint account and gave him some cash, as felt he deserved to spend some on what he wanted - and then paid a bit of our mortgage off

dh was very overcome and got quite emotional about me giving him is money - bless him

but what is done is done - you had a nice time , your dh isnt pissed off and sounds like your friend is a bit

DaisyMooSteiner · 28/03/2009 12:29

I have to say, it wouldn't even occur to me to spend it all on myself rather than treating my dh and children too. And I would be absolutely GUTTED if my dh blew a few grand on himself and didn't want to share it with me. I think it's totally fair enough to spend it on luxuries rather than mundane stuff, but I couldn't have kept it all to myself rather than sharing the fun with my family!

But if your family are truly not at all bothered that you did it, then I don't suppose it matters.

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