To go out with a group of other mums, drink too much and have a hangover whilst caring for DD (3.5)

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I actually started a light hearted thread about this this morning. I went out with some friends last night, drunk MUCH more than i intended to and got very drunk. I was a bit frustrated with myself because i have felt like shit all day. But hey - im a grown up. Right? I have just posted this on my other thread, but really want some honest opinions about this? The reason im posting is because in the past, when women have posted about their DP/DHs getting pissed and then being in charge of the DCs hungover - he has been called all the mnet names under the sun.

so here goes:- Feel free to flame

"Well i am sitting here in shock

DP is being really awful with me about last night!! I am literally gobsmacked and like, WTF?? Yes, going out and getting ratarsed on a school night wasn't the most sensible thing in the world because ive had to deal with DD all day with a hangover. He is incensed about her not going to playschool - the only reason i didn't send her is because SHE woke up late - a) it would have been a mad rush to get her there and more importantly b) If she didn't get up until 8.30 that tells me she is really tired. She goes every day for the mornings and sometimes it does get a bit much for her. She doesn't have to go by law although the school is funded for full attendence and you cannot choose to attend part time. Saying that, many of the parents have their children unofficially only there 3-4 days. So, whats his problem with that?? I have done this before when she hasn't woken up and i didn't get a bollocking for it - oh no, he told me that he thought it sensible!!!

Yes,i haven't done much with DD today, but she has seemed happy enough, i have played with her - albeit from a horizontal position with support from sid and andy! She hasn't been miserable, in fact i think she quite liked the lazy day.

I DO feel a bit bad that we didn't go out and i wasn't more with it, but its one day FGS, its not like i do this all the time. In fact, i have been drunk twice since DD born 3.5 years ago, including last night.

I don't know what his problem is - he is grumpy and talking to me like shit, calling me irresponsible and that i "have got a problem". Honestly, i just can't believe he is being like this, he has never ever been caveman like in the past. He deliberately undermined me over giving DD an ice lolly previous to having her dinner - guess what, she didnt eat her meal . He is looking at me like he hates me - do i really deserve this?

Is there anyone out there who actually thinks IABU? Honestly, because im not sure? "

lem- having read the rest of your posts I'm sorry I wasnt more sympathetic. Why does your dh go to bed so early?

It sounds like you two need to start having a life together again.

But it sounds as if you are a little resentful of your DD (by calling her his precious) if that's the case you know that it's your two's issue not hers.

It sounds like you two need to have a big talk (preferably not infront of his collegues )

I don't think you're being unreasonable, but I don't think he is either. If as you say you barely see him all week as he's working so hard he's going to be pissed off that you've had time to yourself - which you need and no doubt deserve, but maybe he needs a good blow out too?
How to get him to have one when he doesn't like socialising though...

noonki - I do feel resentful sometimes, not of my DD because i adore her, but just that he does make me feel this way quite a lot. He goes to bed early because he is up at 5 and leaves doesn't get back til 6-7, spends four hours a day driving. so he is knackered. I respect that, but i do mind.

Its funny, it was his birthday this week and i managed to engineer a couple of hours alone (and believe me it took some engineering) - he really enjoyed it, and was clearly refreshed the next day. I think that talk is wayyy overdue

Just read the other thread on your night out.
HAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!! HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!! Brilliant!

he apologised!!! Should bloody well think so!

I am laughing to myself and recalling the times when I was little and 'ssh mummy's head hurts go and play quietly'
The penny has dropped! Drunken old mare of a mother!!! Seriously once in a while is no big deal at all...

what was his problem then?

And can you link your other thread please? If its as good as Blarbie says I may be inspired to do the same myself

ah OFFS, it wasn;'t that great, cant do links - i just went out, got pissed, got my tits out in the pub and nearly fell in the harbour on my way home because i thought it would be fun to walk back alone the beach on my own in the pitch black. I also remember stealing a guys pint of murphy's

you might have been hungover, but it did not stop you being able to look after DD. which i think is what people have been flamed for in the past. you did look after her, albeit with a sore head

if your DD did not wake up until 8.30 then no point rushing her for non compulsory shcool, she might be sickening for something or just totally exhausted

i think you and DP have had a lot of stress this week with teh workmate with the broken arm scenario, so perhspas DP taking it out on you..

yeah, he was lulu, but i sucked it up - he is knackered too, so he is forgiven - THIS TIME