To be a little annoyed with dh when I found out that he had been calling ds1 (3) a bully boy

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When he is not! He is the most loving but boistorous little 3 year old you could meet and very sensitive child as well who has an amazing memory and takes everything in! Anyway tonight he was playfighting with daddy junmping all over him that is when he said I'm a bullyboy! When I asked him where did you get that from he said daddy calls me it! Apparantly he calls him it when he sees him hitting ds2 etc aged 16 months. This is something he rarely does these days although I still wouldn't trust him to be alone with him. Dh unfortunately regularly does leave them alone (that is unsupervised in a different room to dh) and that is when he will give him the odd swipe and kick etc ! Anyway I still don't think its right for his own daddy to call him a bullyboy!

i'm not very comfortable with nicknames like these.

i know a bloke who calls his baby son a 'bruiser', and is proud of it.

Maybe mums are just more sensitive.

It isn't for longer than a few minutes but thats all it takes its just that he'll think nothing of leaving them in the living room to chat to me in the kitchen for example or to put a dirty cup in the kitchen or to go toilet etc. He agrees with me that they shouldn't be left alone but at the time he forgets/doesn't think iyswim?

I'm with you, not a great idea. Ds is only three, he doesn't understand why it would be a bad idea to start going round telling everyone he's a bully, or believing that it's OK to be a bully. Am sure your dh didn't intend to do anything wrong but I wouldn't let it continue, personally.

bruiser wouldn't bother me at all. Thing about 'bully' is that bullying is taken VERY seriously in schools these days. It's not helpful for a child if they have had that word normalised for two years by the time they start school.

I am cetain he didn't intend it either edam but its a label thats not nice imo! I have spoken to dh about why I don't like it and he does agree and just hadn't thought it though it was just something he'd been saying!

The nickname isn't the worst I've heard but it could be better.

I'm more bemused at the idea that you don't leave your 3 year old alone in the room for even a minute to go to the loo or put a cup in the sink. He must feel rather stifled. If it's because he can't be left alone without bashing his little brother then that needs tackling - if he is used to rough and tumble fighting play with dad then that's going to be passed along to the little one.

Sorry not what you asked, but it did leap out at me...

just reread original thread. Should have been ds was jumping all over dh NOT the other way round! Now that wouldn't be right!!!

What I meant was I do leave my 3 year old alone in the living room but not alone with ds2.

Oh and ds2 has now started climbing all over dh aswell must be the size of dhs tummy they think he's a trampoline thats what dh says anyway!