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To be really hacked off with DH who has taken...

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PrincessPickle · 27/03/2009 07:36

my car keys with him this morning, effectively leaving me stranded in the middle of a village with no transport in or out for the day.

Also when he knew it was the day I was taking DS to his toddler group, and he also knew I had shopping to get for the weekend, and to pick DD up from school to speak with her teacher (she usually gets the school bus). I know he didn't mean to do it, but it's not the first time it's happened and he works too far away (35 minute drive each way) to come back with them.

He says I've given him grief about it but he doesn't understand what it's like not to be able to take yourself off somewhere in the car if need be....would you be miffed too?

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Niftyblue · 27/03/2009 07:39

I would be so
Could he not get a taxi to drop them of or something

Or you get a taxi to do the shopping and school and let him NOW how much exactly how much it cost

Lindenlass · 27/03/2009 07:42

I would be v. v. but 'tis done now. Sounds like you've had a go at him now. You need to move to thinking of a solution! Have you got enough money to get a taxi to bring them back? Are there any buses you can catch? Any friends who could offer lifts (although I guess your car seats are locked inside your car!).

And for the future, you need to make sure you have a spare key, or that yours are kept very separate from his so the mistake doesn't get made again!

My DH did this a few times and it made me so mad we ended up making our key rings very different from eachothers, and told him not to ever, ever use mine, even when we were both together, so he got in the habit of only ever picking up his keys. What if you kept yours in your handbag?

Sorry for the long post - but this was a real issue for me a while back so I feel your pain! but it never happens now!

Lazycow · 27/03/2009 07:44

I'd be very annoyed but in the meantime what can you do about it - giving him grief is fine but it doesn't really solve your problems does it?

Shopping-

Maybe you could email a shopping list to dh for him to get after work at a late opening supermarket - We talk about making children take consequances for their actions all the time so not a bad idea for adults too.

Toddler group
Is there anyone who could pick you and ds up? or maybe you could take a cab - expenses permitting but then I am bit lax re car seats and cabs so if you are not happy with that you might have to miss that. Maybe go out for a walk/collect sticks etc instead.

School visit
mm hard one. This might have to wait although you could possibly ring the school and explain that you have a problem getting in (no need to say exactly why) but would like to have a chat to the teacher at the end of the day. The secretary might pass on the message and get her to call you or give you a time that is convenbient to call and speak to the teacher.

I would be v p*ed off though
Finally - I'd get a spare set of keys cut for yout car and hide them so only you know where they are !

bellavita · 27/03/2009 07:48

I would give DH more than grief!!

I remember once he had taken my car keys with him to work but it was ok, because I had a spare set.

Off we toddle to the park and ride to go into town, park up, put the steering wheel lock on, catch the bus, do some shopping and then get the bus back to the car.

All was going so well until we got back into the car and I realised that I did not have a key on the spare set to unlock the steering wheel lock! It was a blazing hot day, lunchtime and the boys were starving, think they were about 2 and 4 at the time.

DH has never done the journey from Leeds to York so quickly to bring the keys!! I would say it is a good 45 mins and he did it in about 25....

and yes, I would be miffed...

Is there anyone you could share a lift with for toddler group? Perhaps do an online shop to be delivered tomorrow morning? Ring the teacher and explain and see if you can speak to her on Monday?

ridingjoker · 27/03/2009 07:58

ok, so you've had a go at him. suffered your wrath.

pull you socks up and solve problem.

as suggest.. internet shopping.

exchange toddler group for something arty crafty at home.

can you talk to school about problem over phone or explain and have the appointment rearranged.

good luck. amnd cheer up.

oh and get a spare set of keys cut.

CompareTheMeerkat · 27/03/2009 08:01

DH took both sets once when I was meant to go to see a friend about 50 miles away by car. I was very cross.

Greatfun · 27/03/2009 08:02

My DH used to insist he needed to drive the car to work. He worked 15 mins away (20 mins on train) and the car sat in his work car park all day whilst I was stranded in the arse end of surburbia. I couldn't use the train due to buggy and stairs at station.Very . YANBU. But was an accident. From now on check for keys before he leaves

DaisyMooSteiner · 27/03/2009 08:03

Mine has done this a couple of times and we also live really rurally. It's a pain in the neck, so I totally sympathise. If it makes you feel any better, when we first moved here our car was written off in an accident and I wasn't able to leave the village for a whole month!

kslatts · 27/03/2009 08:12

As this was an accident I would let it go.

Could he get a courier to drop the keys off?

differentID · 27/03/2009 08:37

tell you what- leave him a huge list of things to do outside the house over the weekend and take his set(s) with you. see how he likes it. Oh and leave the dc with him as well.

wotulookinat · 27/03/2009 08:40

That is such a man thing to do!

WinkyWinkola · 27/03/2009 08:48

This is extremely annoying. I sympathise especially when it's so much easier with kids when you're able to go out and about.

Hope the day isn't too long!

trixymalixy · 27/03/2009 10:49

I have done this to DH before. Not just a man thing.

Stayingsunnygirl · 27/03/2009 11:03

My dh has done this too. I did make him come all the way back down to Southend on the train, from London, to return my keys once. I think he realised that day just how cross I was!

In the end, I put a very pink, sparkly keyring on my keys, so that there was less chance of him taking them by mistake.

Aeschylus · 27/03/2009 11:45

I thin the thing hear is not to overreact.

yes it is frustrating, I too live in a villiage, where a car is the only transport.

you can do shopping online @ tesco's. ok you will miss toddler group, but not the end of the world.

you could go shopping when he gets back if you wanted too.

I am sure he did not mean to take them...

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