...to be slighty p*ssed off that this mother didn't take out her noisy child at the cinema?

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About 5 other adults and myself in at Marley and Me. About 4pm this afternoon. There was also this mother and her son (age about 4 or 5).

From the start of the film to the end this kid was constantly kicking the seat infront very loudly and talking. He was obviously bored out of his head. I thought it would be common courtesy to take a noisy child out.

YANBU.

was she there with just him OR a group? I'd be annoyed too tbh but maybe he'd been like that with her all week and that was the only thing she could face doing today (have had those moments myself too)

well an afternoon showing is slightly different to a later showing (at a more adult time of 8 or 9 pm)

am not sure if YABU, but as a courtesy she should have tried to keep her DS quiet and not kick the seat (which is rude)

YANBU. Even though she'd paid for them to see it I think she should have left, after all, everyone had paid to see it. I don't think that's really a film for young children is it? Bit too much to expect a child to sit through what I imagine to be a love story with a few dogs in it.

feck common courtesy - it's not a kid's film just cos it had a dog in it.

stupid bint.

Although that's a fair point made by Dixies.

I would have complained as I left, maybe got a refund.

am not saying I agreed with it cat64 but how do we know he was HER child? they could have been in a group of kids for a party or something OR she could have been there as arranged from weeks before etc

it IS a PITA to be bothered by a child misbehaving and god knows the cinema isn't cheap to go to BUT it was a film at a time where you're guaranteed to have kids there and some level of disruption is pretty much a given

she should have at least taken him out and had a word but maybe by that time she'd lost the will to live and thought it may have created more of a scene

was just trying to see it from both sides

YANBU-I don't agree with Dixie's point either-if the mother has had a bad week with him she shouldn't be rewarding him with a trip to the cinema. I think I would have asked him directly to please be quiet.

am I the only person on this thread thats ever had a bad day?

No - but it isn't fair to inflict it upon everyone else! I would have either asked the boy to stop or asked the mother to stop him.You do expect people in the cinema to watch the film!

Just desserts for watchin such trip.

In libraries and cinemas, if people do this I shout very loudly
'Can you be quiet please, we're trying to watch the film/do some work'.

It always works.

imagine it if you'd come onto chat and seen this post

I've had such an awful week with DS2 but had arranged to go to cinema as part of birthday celebrations for best friends DS. I wanted to say no because I knew it wouldn't go well but as I was driving I couldn't pull out.

DS2 was doing ok but was a bit hyper, he suffers from ADHD/autism/has a hearing difficulty and doesn't realise how loud he is/ was his first time at the cinema and was over excited

I should have made him leave but couldn't face the tantrum that would have ensued/am mortified as there were loads of other people there and I'm sure we ruined their enjoyment/would have had to cut the party short/ there was a group of people tutting etc and I was too embarrassed to move/was crying/had to stay with other kids

etc etc etc

once again I'll say I'm not saying it was right and yes it is a PITA but for crying out loud am I the only person thats had a hard day with a preschool child??

btw, did I mention I was at the cinema today and DS was being a right PITA

oh and in answer to the OP original question no YANBU to be slightly pissed off, I would have been too

I think in that case dixie you would have to make sure that you weren't the only adult so that he could be taken out without moving the rest.

YA definitely NBU. Children of 4 or 5 should just not be taken to films like this. As other posters have said it is really not a children's film and anyone who reads any reviews of this film could easily find out that it's not suitable for young children-for one thing it's 2 hours long.

However, it's not always the children who are badly behaved in a cinema.

I was once unfortunate enough to be sitting in front of some slob who slurped, gobbled, sniffed,kicked my chair and grunted loudly throughout "King Kong" (obviously had failed the audition for the main part!).

He had a really bad cold which I found out to my horror as he coughed and sneezed a few times and something sticky hit the back of my head .

He and his equally Waynetta Sloblike partner talked and grumbled through the most poignant part of the film and when he left his seat looked like a bomb site littered with snotty tissues, popcorn and spilt drinks.

Not a very enjoyable viewing experience!

See this is why I can't take my children to the cinema or theatre. I try to get them to be quiet but it's not always possible.

YANBU

As you say, it is common courtesy to take a noisy child out.

Hate, hate, HATE it when people let their kids do this in the cinema. Also hate it when adults chat, rustle and rummage their way through a film - it's definitely not just children. Maybe these adults were allowed to disturb everyone when they were young so now they think it's OK...

DS1 has AS and hasn't always coped well with cinemas but DP or I have always taken him out if he's started to get restless as I don't see why we should let him ruin the film for everyone else.

Grrr. YANBU at all.

YANBU.
this is one reason I never go to the cinema

Dizzy I am afraid I would have little sympathy with anyone who posted your imaginary scenario