to want to delete my brand-new Facebook account?

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First OP ever...
This morning I finally created a Facebook account, as some of my close RL friends kept bugging asking me nicely to join so that we could "see" each other more often.
Throughout the day other people I know have been asking me to add them as friends. These are not people I'm close to, but do know relatively well and would normally be happy to bump into once or twice a year at a wedding or something. I don't particularly want to share my life with them on a daily basis...

Should I:
a) Not accept these people and come across as rude?
b) Add them and just chill out about it?
c) Cave to temptation and gut instinct, delete FB account and stick to the important internet stuff i.e. MN? (after all, my close friends can email or phone if they want to talk to me)
d) Get a life and not waste precious MN time with trivial issues!

i've never had FB....(just not my thing)... if your a bit fed up with it already...day 1...then i'd close it

c) or a) If you do add people you hardly know, be very cagey about what you put on there. I know far too much about some people's lives.

Oooh, I'm torn between b) and c)

I luurve facebook, I've found loads of old friends through it. I've also added lots of folk at their request, but don't actually interact with them at all (and you could add them now and remove them later if you wanted).

But - seems like you're really not bothered about FB at all so maybe c) for you..

I have cancelled mine today. Feels great.

If you don't want to be on FB, then don't.

I have different levels of access allowed on my facebook - I am that self obsessed but that may be an idea.

twinsetand pearls, how do different access levels work?

So some people cant see my photos or videos , it is in your settings.

You can add friends to a group and then have settings for a group for example.

Hmmmm... Will think it all over. In any case, anyone who's friends with anyone I'm friends with (that sounds awful - headache just typing that!) can read messages I've sent, right? So I don't know, my run for the hills instinct might prevail after all. Will give it another day and see.

Thanks everyone!

and what I want to know is, if you delete someone who was your 'friend' (we are not, can't stand her & don't want her knowing what I am doing), will they know that you have deleted them??

Sorry for hijak.

You can limit peoples view of your profile but they will know you did it.
Also if you delete your account and have already accepted peoples friends requests then you will be removed from their friend list without explanation. In a nut shell someone disappeared from my list, I went to email them, assumed I had upset them without realising but it was that they decided fb to be a waste of time....

aaargh. the complexities of modern life.

They are not informed that you have deleted them . They will only know if they are looking for you and see that your name is not on there friends list anymore. IYKWIM

tess, so I guess if I decide to delete FB account I should warn people first that I am giving up and not mad at them?

Not at all unreasonable OP! I see far too many posters on AIBU who whinge about FB and I just want to post "Commit Facebook suicide then you idiot!" but restrain myself from doing so. Honestly, I had an account for a couple of months but found that I was spending too much time on there and one had to be wary about what to post there as well as I got headhunted from the profession details I posted.

Anyway, good luck.

I found applying some of these suggestions finally gave me the confidence to join FB. It's actually relatively easy to restrict info others can see.

Great link Grendle!