To think parents should pay attenton to their screaming child on public transport?

[dilemma456]

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OK OK... this one always comes up doesn't it. OP doesn't know said child has SN but why do we assume it does? But if we assume he doesn't have SN I don't think it's unreasonable to say that it isn't an ideal way to treat a child. Is that innoffensive enough?

I agree with OrmIrian

i know plenty of nt children who are best left alone when acting like this its not just about sn children but were stating that our children are best left alone and again i said regardless of sn or nt some parents and children parent differently there child may act up more if they react to his tantrum

again parents are told all the time if children act out and are not easily calmed ignore ignore ignore this could be a child they have tried to calm since leaving the house and now have had enough and want to sit in peace as conversation is allowing him to be rewarded for bad behaviour as its not calming him down its getting there attention instead

my son screams all the time he also bangs his heads on walls - he does it out of frustration because he cannot get his point across and cannot understand what people are saying to him so he gets upset. talking to him, trying to read him a story makes it ALOT worse.the only way to calm him down IS to leave him alone quietly to sort his little thoughts out then once he is calm speak to him.
I think you are being very unreasonable to be honest you dont know the situation and even if they did ignore their child once in a while it doesnt exactly make them bad parents! in my opinion constantly bending to the will of a young child and keeping them amused 24 hours a day (rather than letting them relax and find their own enterainment) is the best way to grow a spoiled child!

sophie

well my DS1 and DS3 are both totally unreachable/unreasonable with when they're in full flow tantrum - I do ignore them (and yes have ignored DS3 on the bus several times).

Talking to him when he's kicked off only makes him worse - and he's nt.

DS2 was easily distractable and I probably would have talked to him and distracted him.

Not just SN children who can be unreasonable and best ignored. Who knows a child's temperament better than his/her own parents? Save judgement unless you have some real cause for concern, I say.

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