I've name changed. Where do I start and how do I put this without sounding totally ungrateful? That is certainly not my intention. I am a sahm and have 2 children aged 3.6 and 16 months. Until ds1 was 2.10 and ds2 was 8 months my mum worked full time and hardly ever saw my children during the week but we went round most saturdays as dh works most saturdays but has days off during the week. I don't drive but managed to getout and about most days. Toddler group on mondays, meeting with friends to the park etc etc. I chose a preschool that wasn't the most local but not too far away. Its in a purpous built building and is absolutely lovely. I always envisaged getting us there under our own steamie walking, dh dropping off on his rotored days off and even a 2 minute direct bus route as dh is a bus driver and we have free bus travel. Anyway then my mum retired and things have totally changed. My mum wants to come round every single day unless it is dh's rotored day off. At first it was both a novelty and a great help to me. This is also why I fear some will tell me I am ungrateful or be envious. She help loads around the house often without me even asking, she comes round quite early on preschool days (this too has kind of evolved without me actually knowing how) to help me get the children ready and she drives with all of us in tow and takes us to drop off ds1 to preschool which I do myself and then does the whole thing in reverse in the afternoon (he does 2 full days). I have told her that I never chose the preschool expecting her to do this and she said but why not take the easy way when its being offered? She speaks to me like I am still a child and makes me feel like I am still dependant on her. She tells me I should be dealing with the children this way or that and even tells me to say this to ds or don't do it that way. I have increasingly been conforming to what she says but today for the first time I just snapped and was close to tears and have begun to think things can't continue like this. I don't go to toddler group now and haven't done for some time as mums always round and when I said I would like to go again (meaning so don't come round on that day) she said ok you go and I'll look after ds1 as its not a preschool day. When I said I'll take him she said don't you think he'll find it boring. She also said that Mondays a stupid day to have it as you need it to catch up from the weekend! Its now got to the point when ds1 says whens granny coming today! I did manage ok before my mum retired I really wasn't really that bad at things although there are time I wonder how or if I really did. So aibu to want things to change?