To be angry with BIL on DPs behalf

[LEMAGAIN]

Last night my DP rang his brother for some advice over a serious problem we have, concerned with our business. His brother works in the field. I have posted on here actually and got lots of great advice (thank you ladies!) I wont go into details here as its not relevant. We were trying to decide whether to report a health and safety incident and didn't want to get "into trouble" as it were. We phoned BIL who spoke to me and basically tried to "baffle me with words" and show how much he knows. But blatantly knew very little up to date stuff as i had the HSE website in front of me. So, he is was like "right, don't do a thing until ive spoken to our HS guy and i'll call you tomorrow" But his general advice was dont report it, make it go away, cover up etc. Thankfully DP ignored!

Has he rung back? Has he bollocks!!!! This is a potentially very serious situation for my DP although thanks to some fantastic advice receieved on here we have at least followed the correct procedures and covered all bases.

I just feel really disappointed that his brother didn't at least ring him at some point in the day when he knew it was urgent and that we needed to act quickly. It has made me quite cross on DPs behalf. BIL can be an arrogant twunt at times and normally we don't bother to ask him for advice as he usually starts going off on a tangent to try and appear all knowing (he forgets im actually quite intelligent and have a finely tuned bullshit guage!).

I guess you know in future not to bother asking him, as you can't rely on him.

Glad you got everything sorted out though.

Yes - pillock!! My DP sometimes gets the feeling that his brother doesn't like the fact that he is getting on OK with the business - well, getting on with the business, its crippling but we are getting there - i think his brother likes to think he is the only one in the family who knows anything - wont be told etc. Ive ALWAYS thought that, but it would have been nice for him to at least asked his collegue what he thought DP should do!! Especially as it turns out that he works for the company who appears to do the incident reporting for the HSE!!! So the advice would have come straight from the horses mouth!!

We were supposed to be going on holiday with them this year - but he never got back to us about it, we went ahead and booked, couldnt afford to pay for him too - left messages, no reply - so THANK GOD we are going on our own!!! This was booked ages ago, BUT the other day when DP spoke to his mother she said, oh BIL says you are going on holiday together . I felt slightly guilty about this - not any more!!! .

I don't have any siblings so never really understood the relationship, but in our extended family we stick together, stick up for each other and help each other out. I just assumed thats how it was for everyone [niave]