To want ONE HOUR alone with my DP on his birthday!

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We have had a really stressfull few days, my mum has offered to babysit for a couple of hours, but DD is kicking off doesn;t want her daddy to go out - can't leave miserable child with 73 year old nan

bloody hell!!!! One sodding hour on our own, with no whining no having to stuff food into our faces double time or entertaining toddlers at the dinner table! bollocking bollocks!!

Erm, why can't you go out? Why is your DD dictating what should happen?

How old is your dd?

Let DD kick off. She will get over it. Bribe her if necessary.

Agree. Your nan can and will cope.

Yikes - you need to put a stop to that. Go out and have a good time.

I am with the others that you should just go. She will get over it. Unless your mum won't be able to cope of course (my mum would be fine but mil wouldn't)

I am with the others that you should just go. She will get over it. Unless your mum won't be able to cope of course (my mum would be fine but mil wouldn't)

You tell DD that sometimes things happen that you don't like and this is one such time

God just go!
If you give in now, she'll know it works and will kick off again anytime you want to do something she doesnt to get her own way!

oops...

what age are your kids???

well she is playing nicely with my mum just now but i really don't want to leave my mum with her screaming blue murder - will see if DP wants to go.

my dd is 3 by the way

your DD will probably be fine once you have gone

i don't think it is a good idea to let her control what you do

don;t give her a choice - say you are going

Agree with the others that this could end up setting a precedent where she thinks that if she kicks off enough that you won't go out or do something else.

i have a 3yo who is just the same. i agree with other posters that you need to go. your MIL will be able to distract her

Go! Your dd might kick off but she will be fine within minutes of you leaving and you will have a lovely time

lem, just go

your 3 yo shouldn't be allowed to rule the roost all the time

I think 3 year olds (and all children, actually) get very disorientated and actually angry if they have too much control relative to their age. Don't set the precedent for this.

we went, DD was fine, the food was OK, the wine was nice, the company was perfect

well done. glad you had a good time

and good for granny

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listen to Auntie MN !

Do it again every other week

Then next year you might be allowed a whole evening or even a whole night away

I love my dd's dearly as does everyone but I've never been one to be by their side all the time, due to a very helpful and close family I've always left my dd's from quite a young age and have never had any problems. Later this year we're getting married and our dd's are going on holiday with pil while we have our honeymoon, we're all going for 2 weeks and it will be bliss, yes I will miss dd's more than ever but I'll still be going and I will try to enjoy every second as much as possible because i'm sure it will be the last time for a long time we will be able to do that.

Good for you!

I have one DS who is now 7 and generally ok when we go out but he wasn't always. He wouldn't have a tantrum but would get upset. We had to just be strong and go. He got used to it and loves his babysitter now.

I agree that giving young children too much control is not good. Not good at all!

You would not think that two hours alone together with the headspace to think and talk would make such a difference!! DP is a different man today - he was sooo stressed yesterday bless him. But we just were able to talk through quietly and sensibly without getting distracted. This morning he is positive and fresh and i feel all loved up again!

Definately going to do this more often!