To Send This Back in the post?

[tessofthedurbervilles]

Exp dp abandoned me when found out I was pg. We just tried to get on with each other for the sake of baby due in two months.....

I would use it as a nappy liner but dont think it would be much good

Felines sick cloth is a better idea

In a really funny sort of way I wonder whether this is some kind of peace offering actually?? I know he's been a bit wet and hopeless so far on the support front, but he obviously racked through a load of t-shirts while thinking about impending fatherhood. I wonder what he will do next.

Sick cloth sounds like the plan...at least I can satisfy myself that his small contribution has been useful in some way.

He sounds like your average useless bloke.. my DP brought naff all and he was with me lol

Write him a list

A

BIG

Expensive

Muthhher fukka

Of a shopping list

Thats what i have just done and he is on item number 12 already..
Amazing where a guilt trip takes you.

Well after our last conversation, when he fell asleep while I was talking to him, I recvd a text apologising for 'last night' apparently he was tired and ill.
He had been on a stag weekend and was rough so I should disregard him telling me I have ruined his life and am selfish for having my baby?
What to reply to that?!

I would say

Thats ok bell end
Sorry you were honking up due to drinking too much
Now you have experienced what i did at the beginning of my pregnancy

Where should i send this list of stuff i want you to buy for the baby

rofl.....brilliant answer!

Tess, was the pregnacy planned?

How long had you been together?

A year, it was unplanned but as a result of both of us....not me 'accidentally on purpose' getting knocked up.

Oh I wasn't implying you had done anything deliberately at all. Just trying to get a feel for your situation and whether he's being a complete git or is just a guy who is finding the situation he is in a huge shock.

You'd been together a while then when you found out you were pregnant. Had things been OK between you up to that point?

Of course you're angry. You're on your own with a baby due soon, and he hasn't had the same reaction that you have to the pregnancy. Plus he's already a Dad and feels completely differently at the moment about this child. And that must be incredibly hard for you to deal with.

The thing is though, this child isn't real to him yet. I think when we are pregnant they seem more "real" to us IYSWIM because we are carrying them and can feel them. You may well find that once the baby arrives he feels completely differently about the child, once he holds it and looks it in the eyes he might just melt and feel the same way about it as he does his other child.

Not aimed @ surfermum.. just a comment IMHO.. The sodbag was one of the 2 people it takes to make a baby

"Well he should have put something on the blardy END of it shouldn't he"

Agree with surfermum totally on the 'not real to him yet' bit

So true.
This is why IMO my DP abandoned me when i was 6 months gone because he got chatting to another W and thought the grass was greener. Now he is pretty much in love with DS totally and utterly, shame he still acts a dickhead.

Oh..talking about things being REAL........And the letters from the CSA will look just as real