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Original poster

AIBU to have told off this little girl

35 replies

SJisontheway · 23/03/2009 16:52

so, I was at the supermarket today, just getting a couple of items. I was standing in the queue behind a customer and had my items on the belt. A little girl - about 6 or 7, pops up between me and the guy in front and anounces "I'm next". I smiled and said "do you not know you have to queue". "no I don't, I'm next" she replies. I shoved my stuff to the end of the belt so there was no room for her to put her stuff down, at which point she starts grabbing at them to make space. At this point I got a bit cross, told her not to touch my stuff along with a stern glare. She backed off and started mumbling about telling on me. So AIBU - should I just have said she's just a little girl - let it go or do you think I was right to correct her bad manners?

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LibrasJusticeLeagueofBiscuits · 23/03/2009 16:53

What was a girl of 6-7 doing in the supermarket by herself???

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 23/03/2009 16:55

No YANBU. Libras I often send into shops to get things while I wait outside.

mum23monkeys · 23/03/2009 16:55

what on earth was she doing in a supermarket on her own?

If her parents expected her to be mature enough to go to the supermarket on her own, then she should also be expected to act in an appropriate manner. Queue barging is not appropriate.

So, no, YANBU.

cornsilk · 23/03/2009 16:55

You seriously argued with a 6 year old about who was next in the supermarket? Did she have a trolley full of stuff?

barbiehouse · 23/03/2009 16:55

i would have done the same, but i get quite grumpy in that sort of situation

muppetgirl · 23/03/2009 16:55

??

Posting to find out how this one turns out as it really doesn't make sense!

Original poster
SJisontheway · 23/03/2009 16:55

Good question - it's in a housing estate. I presume she was local and walked.

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tessofthedurbervilles · 23/03/2009 16:57

Oh dear, I sense trouble in the air...

geordieminx · 23/03/2009 16:58

I was prepared to say YABU, thinking it may have been a 2 or 3 year old prodding your stuff while you queued but no your are definately NBU... cheeky little madam. Her parents were probably somewhere else in the store but she was probably too impaitent to wait for her stuff so they sent her to pay for it .

Hulababy · 23/03/2009 16:58

YANBU. She should have been told to wait her turn and if she si mature enough to be in the supermarket she is mature enough to know to wait in turn.

My 6y would know that she has to line up and wait her turn and TBh would never have dreamt of speaking like that to an adult! So, IMO she was not too young to be told.

I let DD go and grab me two or three things from the grocers or the sweet shop whilst I wait int he car outside. I can see the doors. It makes her feel grown up and is our first steps to learning about independence, in a safe manner. She knows the rules.

MitchyInge · 23/03/2009 16:59

heh @ you moving your things so she couldn't put her stuff on the belt

LibrasJusticeLeagueofBiscuits · 23/03/2009 16:59

SSSS - ah ok, I would presume 6-7 yr old would be too young but then I don't know any 6-7 yr olds yet

AnyFucker · 23/03/2009 17:00
Hmm
2shoes · 23/03/2009 17:02

you are a meanie

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 23/03/2009 17:03

dd1 is 5. But she is quite mature and the shop I send her into is local and quite small.

She knows she has to queue but often doesn't realsie where the queue starts so will just stand somewhere untill someone helps her.

She would never be rude though.

StercusAccidit · 23/03/2009 17:06
StercusAccidit · 23/03/2009 17:07

Didn't the kid stamp on your foot OP and start screaming until you gave in out of embarrassment

PlumBumMum · 23/03/2009 17:10

YANBU as my little girl is too nice in shops and lets adults just push infront of her, I always walk over and say sorry but shes next,
so I'd be expecting the cheeky little madams mum to come over and tell her off

Original poster
SJisontheway · 23/03/2009 17:11

Nah - I don't embarrass easily. Just as well she didn't or we could have created quite a spectacle

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steviesgirl · 23/03/2009 17:11

If it was an adult or teenager I would have been peeved, very. But as she was just a little child you should just let it go. She was only a kid and probably didn't know any better. I know it's annoying but it was only a one off.

nametaken · 23/03/2009 17:15

YANBU - I do hate it when a kid thinks they'll get away with something because they (and their parents) think they're "cute".

Trouble is, it's not so "cute" when a kids 7. Only when they're 3.

OrmIrian · 23/03/2009 17:17

I would have let her go thinking 'rude little brat' as I did. I don't like rude children and she should have been taught basic manners if sent to do shopping alone.

StercusAccidit · 23/03/2009 17:17

I wouldn't have let her

However, it DOES annoy me when people push in front of a child in a queue, or KNOW that a child is waiting and just hasn't realised the 'thing' about moving forward...

Adults sometimes do not respect kids, but letting them push in also teaches bad manners, she has probably done it and got away with it before, 9 years old is old enough to know better manners IMO.

MitchyInge · 23/03/2009 17:18

9?

I thought it said 6 somewhere

StercusAccidit · 23/03/2009 17:19

Sorry..9 should have said 7...
DSD does things like this and hopes her 'cheeky' appeal works.
Bah. Soon relieved her of that misapprehension.