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or, possibly, a miserable old moo but i am in a big sulk...

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yousaidit · 22/03/2009 22:06

... because all dropped a big hint to dh for mothers day was for some slippers. (yes, i really am that sad).

dh rattling on for ages that my slippers stink, pretending to hide them and stuff, so, bearing n mind he works in city centre and we have loads of supermarkets near us, he pretty much had every option available to buy some.

today? card, and nadda, nitch, fark all else. dh said he 'couldn't find any he liked' . however he could find a new guitar for himself. he doesn't play the guitar.

so, dh says we'll go out today and buy some. then ds starts with rotten cold, dh decides to stay in. i spend morning luggng furniture round to get ready for some decorating, dh takes over in afternoon. i feed dd and ds at lunch, dh tells me to 'put your feet up, its mothers day!'

tonight we've both got dc's ready for bed but i had to finish off as dh couldn't settle dd. i started to get tea ready, stcked dishwasher, dh after tea sat in front of me on floor and fell asleep, after threatening me wth a major back rub. i did washing up, made ds's feeds, made dh's sarnies for work.

so, basically, same as every other day with dh being his usual fun self and going that extra little bit today for me to feel just a little bit appreciated rather than like a bloody maid.

am now drinking loads of wine so can go to bed drunk and snore and ignore dh.

i don't feel right. i feel like i can start crying all the time. i feel a bit empty after anything that doesn;t involve dcs but don't want to as dh will get all dramatic about it.

oooooooh god. why bother having any special days if you set yourself p to expect daft stuff?

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Sfendona · 22/03/2009 22:15

I just didnt want your thread to go anaswered.

Well, you are not sad. Just ..erm practical? Or 'down to earth' . Sounds better

Seems like you are feeling low and special days make us feeling worst sometimes. It s the same with Valentines day isnt it?

We cant force ourselves to feel romantic or happy just because the calendar says so.

Perhaps when you feel better another day make the eford and plan a special meal or something.

And you can always buy those high heel sexy mules with the fury bit

yousaidit · 22/03/2009 22:20

thanks sfendona

i would look a bit of a tit in the mules!

i think i just am feeling a bit sore coz i went to such effort yesterday to cook from scratch a meal for all our parents and cake (i never usually bake) and thought dh would have got me something part mothers day but alse a thanks for pulling out a few stops yesterday. i am being a bit of a big baby really, aren't i?

but thank you for your post, it is sensible and cheery!

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Dingbatgirl · 22/03/2009 22:22

I think later on in the week perhaps tell him how disappointed you feel. Men need to have things pointed out to them, they don't seem to put two and two together. I hope he makes it up to you.

Take care.

Sfendona · 22/03/2009 22:23

No you havnt been a big baby but some men (or some people actually) are good with presents and celebtations and some are not.

My DH is not but am not getting upset anymore. Just plan smth with my mum or sister.

I never had one of those mules but i want to get a pair. One day i will

NellieTheEllie · 22/03/2009 22:25

oh, can I be a miserable moo with you please??
All the other 'mothers day' threads seem to be happy, lovely day and 'look what I got' kind of threads
I've had a crappy day.
I don't expect Tiffany jewellery or a house full of flowers, but I would of liked some small acknowledgement of the dull, tedious daily slog that i go through to raise our children.
Actually, feel better now that i've been able to say it out loud (kind of).

yousaidit · 22/03/2009 22:26

get yourself two pairs, ge one for me as i won't wear them! good idea about troting off with mum and sister, an audience to have a real time whinge and whine session with

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dee0468 · 22/03/2009 22:47

Yes some men including mine are hopeless. My hubby went to footy yesterday whilst I had a stomach bug and yes I did get a card. My present is a new washing machine!!!(I had to order it) Old one broken so handwashing on Mothers day. Necessary as ds sick in night. I got up of course. I did have abit of a lie in but rest of day same as normal. I did virtually everything.
Same when he got his bonus. Present for himself and children (his cost £180 ish) but none for me. Apparent I didn't need anything as he spent alot on valentines day. (A computer game which although I wanted it I think he did too.)
In fact he got himself a present yesterday too. A football item of clothing which he didn't really need.
Off shopping tomorrow whilst son at preschool!!

yousaidit · 22/03/2009 23:02

dee... you need to melt your visa, methinks

nellie... yep you can definately be miserable with me. it is just that, isn't it, just an acknowledgement of what you do. it winds me up that dh says he realises how hard it is with the dcs and it is a slog all day with them and he knows he's gt it easy at work, and so on, so why can't they just make one small, not even remotely expensive gesture on the one fucking day of the year? christ, i don't care if its fucking commercial, its still mothers day and i'm mother to the bloody kids, is it that difficult to get a token gesture or run teh bloody house for the day??

ah, if we can't vent our spleen in rl, a least we can do it on mn!

here, have a glass of my wine

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