When me and ex married he had a daughter who lived with him. She was 6 at the time. She never used to see her mum and I became her mother figure.
The split wasn't nice but one thing we did agree on was that I could continue to see DSD. We felt this was in both hers and my best interests and it was what she wanted. I have remained her main mother-figure ever since and she's now 13. I have always worried that if ex got in a new relationship I would be asked to stay away from her but thankfully it never happened.
I remarried at the beginning of last year however and it is MY new husband that wants me to break contact. He says its stupid that I'm so involved with her and insists that I should let her go. We had a big row over it and I turned to my mum for support. I expected her to agree with me and instead I got told:
"Well, actually...I wasn't going to say anything to you but we've all said its silly you still being so involved with her when she's not yours and you're not even together. Why don't you move on and concentrate on your own life now? and leave DSD to move on too?"
Am I really alone in this? I feel sick at the thought of telling her I can no longer be a part of her life. How cruel.