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Original poster

to be dissapointed in not getting aany flowers or gifts for mothers day

34 replies

JeanPoole · 22/03/2009 16:02

i did get a card, dd is only 21 months.
so of ciurse its upto dh to sort.

would have really loved a bunch of daffs or something though

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Tas1 · 22/03/2009 16:07

Same here, I got the same as I got for xmas..... Sweet FA!

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JeanPoole · 22/03/2009 16:08

did you at least gt a card tas?

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sagacious · 22/03/2009 16:09

Well I got a huugggge diamond ring
A brass marching band
And a fly past from the red arrows

and I'm still not happy

He could have got me a gold plated last malteser

The bastard....

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JeanPoole · 22/03/2009 16:10

lol

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dingledangle · 22/03/2009 16:12

I got two mini chocolate bars from M and S. Both shared with children.

I am cooking my own roast too!

Still could be worse......

BecauseImWorthIt · 22/03/2009 16:13

I have two boys, aged 17 and 14. I have not received a thing, despite numerous reminders from DH to them.

To say I'm unimpressed is an understatement.

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JeanPoole · 22/03/2009 16:24

((biwi)))

i know, its not like i want something big a tiny quid buncg of daffs would make me happy.
i don't demand the earth.

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pavlovthecat · 22/03/2009 16:26

DD is clearly too young to buy you a gift, and you are not the mother of your DP.

Mother's Day is not about presents or flowers. It is about being a Mother, so, spending time with your LO and treasuring her and being treasured back.

Presents are for birthdays, and Christmas.

So, yes YABU.

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JeanPoole · 22/03/2009 16:28

and ive got fucking tonsilitis.

i'm telling gran, she give him what for lol

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cluelessnchaos · 22/03/2009 16:28

DH is working offshore so it was down to the kiddoes this year and it was lovely, 6 cards between 3 kids and bran flakes in bed. I am so happy to have such lovely kids.

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JeanPoole · 22/03/2009 16:29

cluesless thst so nice.

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kiddiz · 22/03/2009 16:31

I have three dcs ages 12, 18 and 20. I didn't even get a card from the eldest two. Did get some "beautiful" fake flowers from dd which she made at the youth group she goes to (well she didn't make the flowers but she did arrange them in a plastic vase with oasis in it). However I wouldn't have got anything at all if she hadn't gone to youth group this week. Same thing happened on my birthday last month. Only dd got me anything and no cards from any of them. It's not even that I don't feel appreciated but
I do just feel unimportant in my family. If I left they probably wouldn't notice till there were no clean clothes in their drawers and no food in the fridge. I include dh there too. And I've tried the withdrawel (sp?) of my labour thing...the fallout just ain't worth it!!

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JeanPoole · 22/03/2009 16:33

we just want to be loved and apprieciated

kiddiz

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OrmIrian · 22/03/2009 16:41

Oh jean. I know what you mean. I did have some lovely things this year - made by the DC. And I appreciated them. But I would love some flowers one year. I love flowers and always get some for my mum and MIL. But I am a trooper, a coper, good old orm, she'll manage...and just this once I'd like to get silly extravagant stuff.... But I know it's just daft.

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JeanPoole · 22/03/2009 20:33

thanks good to hear others feel the same.
well its not good you dont feel appriceated either etc but ykwim!

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2rebecca · 22/03/2009 22:39

I have rarely got a present for mothers day. I wouldn't regard a present from my husband as a mothers day present and prefer my kids to save their pocket money for themselves. I like them to make a card, and it's great if they've made me something at school, but at 21 months I wouldn't even have expected a card. My first card was when my eldest made 1 at nursery. I think some mums have this weird idea of mothers day being about their husband buying them things.

tiredsville · 22/03/2009 22:59

YANBU, I didn't get any flowers. I think dh should have bought some for me. I don't care with the fact I'm not his mother, I still want some farking flowers.
Fathers day, I always make sure he gets his big fark off box of chocolates along with his big fark off mug saying 'DAD your the best' Well no more I tell you.

dee0468 · 22/03/2009 23:08

You are not being unreasonable. I feel the same too. Its just about being appreciated and right now I do not feel appreciated. Oh was able to buy himself a treat when he went out yesterday but nothing for me. All I got was a card.
Our washing machine packed up and earlier in the week I was told that would be my mothers day present. I thought he was joking!!!

mum2samandalex · 22/03/2009 23:11

i had this today too and was upset i didnt have any when i gave birth to ds2 either although he did get me a lovely locket. Theres just something about flowers even if its just a cheap bunch of daffs. Hopefully will get the mess that if it valentines, mothers day or if youve just given birth then you expect a bloody bunch of flowers!!! Or at least i do .

I did get chocolate and a card and a book though.But what i really wanted was a card, bunch of flowers, breakie in bed and a lovely day out with my family planned by dh.

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JeanPoole · 23/03/2009 10:53

i've decided i'm going to buy myself some flowers today, if they have any left aat the shop.

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anniemac · 23/03/2009 11:15

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mm22bys · 23/03/2009 11:21

I got myself some flowers from Waitrose with DS yesterday, two lovely bunches of pink tulips (I think!) for £5.

I think it's really sad all the me me me of so many people on MN.

I love just BEING a mum, I certainly don't need a whole day to pretend to be Queen Bee....

(we did go out to lunch but that was a farewell lunch with friends, all child-free, DS made a card at school, and he wrote in a shop-bought one from DS1 and 2)

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JeanPoole · 23/03/2009 12:59

Ah thats better.
some nice lilys

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DaphneMoon · 23/03/2009 13:04

YANBU, it is the one day of the year that they can show their appreciation of you. Any child old enough to be sorting it out themselves, i.e., teenagers etc should be damn well ashamed of themselves. It's not like they can claim to not know about it FGS. As for DP' and DH's who don't bother. Wait for Fathers day and don't do a thing, see how they like it. I realise how lucky I am reading some of these.

loggedout · 23/03/2009 13:22

Well I (as part of school fundraiser group) spend last thursday lunchtime taking money off the kids and helping them wrap Mothers Day presents, so you should move to our village if you want presents!