To not want to spend Mothers Day afternoon at MIL's?

[LynetteScavo]

She'll get the full mothers day works from us, while I bet I don't even get a lie in.

YANBU, your DH should put you first. Why hasn't he?

YANBU, I remember my DP saying to his mum that we would pop in on mothers day morning. Ans she said what do you mean pop in what else are you going to do all day? DP said celebrate with the mother of my child. She said to me well you've only got the one havn't you, like it was some sort of competition. I was heavily pregnant with DD2 and me thinks she was feeling left out.

erm I think you are being unreasonable.
it's only one afternoon.

wherther or not you get a lie-in is a completely different matter between you and your dh.
I am not sure why him not giving you a lie-in should mean that his mum misses out on mother's day too???

I know IABU.

But I do more mothering than her.

yababu - why doesn't your dh take himself and your dc's to his mums then you can go back to bed and have a lie in?

is she a good grandma? I am spending part of the day with my mum tomorrow but that IS a break for me cos she dotes on the boys so I'l get to sit around drinking tea while she looks after them
best of both worlds really lol

sympathies though, as my dp has never even got me a card from the children for mother's day let alone thinking that I might like a lie-in. so I do know where you're coming from!

YANBU I can't bear spending sunny Sunday afternoons sitting around in people's houses. It is only one afternoon, but when you/DH been at work all week it is a very precious one.

Can't you 'compromise' and go out somewhere nice?

The weather forecast is good-take her out-all have a nice time!

I can imagine that there are a bunch of MILs out there dreading spending an afternoon with their charmless precious DILs too...

But in that case they wouldn't have invited them round, unlike the situation presented.

we tend to treat mothers day as a family day, we have aunts and other relatives that are all involved as they're all like mothers/grans to us in their own way

this is my first mothers day since mum died and of course DH has to work so it will be just me and the girls

go, relax, enjoy it for what it is and if its causing you that much annoyance tell your DH that for mothers day next year you want to go to a Spa or something

DH has been shopping today and judging by the back has bought me somehting lovely.

We're all going to go to the park near MIL, so everyone should be happy.

She's not the most enthusaistic Grandma ever, so I suppose I should just be glad she wants to see her grandchildren for once.

back bags

Well. Now. These MILs are mothers too. And soon enough, they might not be here to encroach on your own lie-ins, pampering etc. You will have a long time of lie-ins and pampering to look forward to, so why on earth not just go with it.

if my MIL was here, we would probably all go out, and we would both ensure we were both spoilt. It is possible to both enjoy the day. It really does not have to be a competition. However, she is on her own in the middle of nowhere in USA with no kids around her to spoil her at all.

I also think its a bit gimmicky really. While I am looking forward to being pampered and given a lie-in past 6am. I would appreciate it, and hope for it on another day too. Like valentine's day - don't need the media to tell me when I can be romantic, nor when I can be spoilt for being a mother.

So, yes, YABU.

Think yourself lucky its only the afternoon.
DP forgot its mothers day (nothing new there!) and tells me today that we are going to his parents for the day. All day. They are 2 hours drive away and we'll be off at 9 and back about 9pm.
No doubt his mother will be thinking that dp wants to go there cos its mothers day, then she'll be all shitty when she realises he has not come with flowers and chocolates (no we will just be spending £40 on petrol to go and see them!).
Then as usual she will elbow me out of the way to be 'supergran' whilst treating me like the unpaid slave/aupair.

Before anyone starts I don't mind dp not remembering mothers day he is fab all year round.

Mil invited us to theirs for a cooked tea tomorrow. Its in the afternoon as the nursing home where her mother lives is having a mothers day lunch where the mums and their "children" are invited and pil are going to that. I spent today with my parents and so it seems only right we go to my pil tomorrow. Dh said when invited I'll have a word with dw and let you know on that so I must remind him to let them know we've accepted or we'll be going hungry tomorrow! Unsure if you yabu it depends if there is anything else you'd rather do, and how well you usually get on with mil

Mil invited us to theirs for a cooked tea tomorrow. Its in the afternoon as the nursing home where her mother lives is having a mothers day lunch where the mums and their "children" are invited and pil are going to that. I spent today with my parents and so it seems only right we go to my pil tomorrow. Dh said when invited I'll have a word with dw and let you know on that so I must remind him to let them know we've accepted or we'll be going hungry tomorrow! Unsure if you yabu it depends if there is anything else you'd rather do, and how well you usually get on with mil

Mil invited us to theirs for a cooked tea tomorrow. Its in the afternoon as the nursing home where her mother lives is having a mothers day lunch where the mums and their "children" are invited and pil are going to that. I spent today with my parents and so it seems only right we go to my pil tomorrow. Dh said when invited I'll have a word with dw and let you know on that so I must remind him to let them know we've accepted or we'll be going hungry tomorrow! Unsure if you yabu it depends if there is anything else you'd rather do, and how well you usually get on with mil

I don't know how that happened!

oh god am i glad i don't need to deal with my MIL anymore as she is now ex along with her useless bloody son but used to hate having to spend ANY time with her regardless of mother's day or not. The first time she met me she asked WHAT i was not WHO and when she found out i wasn't austrian competely dismissed me as a uselss foreigner. She was an out and out bitch by the way, so no i think definately NOT being unreasonable

LOL @ What you are1

My MIL completely blanked me when I first met her, which was tricky, as I was sitting opposite her at a resturant table.

DH and DC's went with out me in the end,without me saying I didn't want to go.

(Maybe DH is stalking me on MN!)