is my mum BU to think this mum is wierd?

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Ok, there's a mum in my street with a dd slightly older than my dd (13 months). Mum watches my dd whilst I work and has gotten friendly with this woman and they have gone to playgroup together.

Now my mum says this woman has been acting strange, no longer going to playgroup and my mum thinks its because the mum is jealous of my dd?

apparently the mum has said things like "she's so big", "she's got so much hair", "she's so confident". I don't think there's anything wrong with that but mum says she says it a bit too much?

I think my mum is being daft, although she IS pretty perceptive, although I've never really spoken to
the mum myself...

Sorry, I wasn't sure whereelse to post this...

No idea, maybe she just doesn't like your Mum?

No idea, maybe she just doesn't like your Mum?

Erm, could something have happened to the woman? Could she or her DD be ill? Could she be on holiday? Could she just not get on with your mum that well and want a change of scene?

I'm always commenting positive things about other people's DCs - erm, not at all jealous of them. Isn't it just a nice thing to do? I do it especially when I know a mum has been having a hard time with her DC.

Is your mum usually perceptive about people? Or does she jump to odd conclusions for no reason? If she's a sensible perceptive person, then she may be picking up that this other mum is depressed or at least very down. Not sure what she can do to help if she only sees her at playgroup though and she's stopped coming. If she knows that any of the other mums know her particularly she could maybe suggest they look in and make sure things are ok?

OTOH your mum may be just being odd! Hard to say without knowing her!

the woman also told my mum she didnt enjoy her dd's first year, so maybe there's some truth in the 'jealous' part? maybe she perceives me as being happier and doing better at motherhood?

I actually had bad pnd, which she doesnt know about, so it wasnt easier for me!

she wasnt on holiday, I have seen her walking her dogs and have said hi in passing.

my mum is quite popular in the area, so i doubt its because my mum has upset her. my mum actually offered to go to playgroup with her, as my mum had talked to her in the street and thought she seemed lonely but she now seems to be rejecting this offer of support/friendship...

yes nmy mum is very perceptive and as I had pnd, my mum recognised from speaking with this woman that she may be depressed and invited her along to playgroup.

the woman came and seemed happier, she also came to my dd's party and into my house with her dd to play.

now suddenly it has all stopped? she doesnt seem to be going elsewhere. my mum spoke to her today, and she was apparently OTT according to my mum, with her comments on my dd.

not sure what to do. we both want to help this lady and be friends with her. my mum can do it better than I can as I work FT.

Maybe it's not your mum, that's the problem but the actual playgorup? I know loads of epople who are very intimidated by big groups of people,and others who jsut don't lke playgroups.
If she can't cope with big groups,and also sees your DD - in her eyes- doing better than her DD, then maybe she is ill, or jsut lacks confidence, and if she does lak confidence, then going into a big group of people could make her worse.

Sorry about spelling ,large dog on my knee.
Did any of what I posted make sense?

I'm not sure it's a confidence thing, I mean at my dd's party she was fine, chatted away to some people.

maybe she just can't be bothered with toddler groups, or doesn't like tying herself down at the same time every week.