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AIBU to want MY wedding photos on my facebook page

42 replies

bamboobutton · 20/03/2009 11:19

I received an email this morning from my sister asking me to remove my wedding pictures from my facebook site as she doesn't want her picture on facebook.

as she was a bridesmaid she is therefore in almost every picture.

i have removed them but i am very pissed off about it these pictures have been on my page for almost a year and she hasn't had an issue before now.

would IBU to put them back up and tell her tough luck?

OP posts:
Disenchanted3 · 20/03/2009 11:20

Do a copy of each, then photoshop a turd on her face to disguise her.

Seriously, just blur her face.

Juwesm · 20/03/2009 11:20

I would have them on there, but not tag her.

katz · 20/03/2009 11:21

could you restrict access to friends only - would that appease her?

Original poster
bamboobutton · 20/03/2009 11:25

she wasn't tagged. ive tried to restrict only her access to photos but i cant figure out how.

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Stretch · 20/03/2009 11:31

I put my wedding photos up and my sister untagged herself on the ones where she wasn't looking quite so 'perfect' She kept it on the others though. She's SO vain! If she has other pictures of herself on facebook, then she can't really moan, unless she's naked on them!!

2rebecca · 20/03/2009 11:32

I would expect someone to ask my permission before putting my photo on facebook. I don't think she is being unreasonable. Just post photos of you and your husband if he is OK with being on facebook.

JemL · 20/03/2009 12:17

Is she actually on facebook herself?

MorrisZapp · 20/03/2009 12:22

YABU

Nobody has the right to post pictures of others on the internet.

Bumperlicioso · 20/03/2009 12:30

Agree with MorrisZap, just leave the ones of you and DH.

Kimi · 20/03/2009 12:36

I have ask people to take down photos of my children before now.

Can you not crop her out?

SerendipitousHarlot · 20/03/2009 12:43

I know it's a pain in the bum, but she has every right not to have her photos on the internet, I'm afraid.

brokenrecord · 20/03/2009 12:55

If it is recognisable as her then you can't put it up without her permission (data protection act covers photos). The solution is to use photoshop and blur her face on each one until it is not a recognisable picture of her. Either that or use it to crop her off any that you want to put up. You can download a trial version of Photoshop free for a month. HTH

brokenrecord · 20/03/2009 12:55

If it is recognisable as her then you can't put it up without her permission (data protection act covers photos). The solution is to use photoshop and blur her face on each one until it is not a recognisable picture of her. Either that or use it to crop her off any that you want to put up. You can download a trial version of Photoshop free for a month. HTH

mamas12 · 20/03/2009 13:02

What the hell would blurring her face on all your pictures look like? Like you hate her or something, you'd have to say on her tag that face blurred on posers request or something. What a palaver! Cropping might look better, is she any good at doing that you could ask her over to do it for you as she is so keen.

bamboostalks · 20/03/2009 13:06

Do you not get on, seems petty to me tbh, esoecially as they have beeen on there for a year.

beanieb · 20/03/2009 13:11

Here's how to restrict her.

Go into 'photos'
Click 'my photos'
find the album you need
click 'edit album' - NB do this without clicking into the album.
click the 'edit info' tab
there's a section/dropdown menu called 'Who can see this' and just below 'edit custom settings'

click on 'edit custom settings'

there you will find (at the bottom) a bit called 'except these people'

Type your sister's name into the space.

Click 'Okay'
then on the screen that is left make sure you click 'save changes'

and you are done

SoupDragon · 20/03/2009 13:12

I think simply blocking her when she's asked you to remove them is extremely rude.

MorrisZapp · 20/03/2009 13:15

I assumed that beanieb was joking.

beanieb?

beanieb · 20/03/2009 13:28

I was responding to the OP saying she wanted to block her sister from seeing that particular album ("she wasn't tagged. ive tried to restrict only her access to photos but i cant figure out how"), not saying she should be blocked all together.

Personally I don't think it's a solution as the sister doesn't want pics of herself on there, so I would suggest blurring out her face instead.

Just letting you know that there is a way to change the settings so only certain people can see teh albums. This doesn't block the person completely, just from that album.

Original poster
bamboobutton · 20/03/2009 13:57

sorry not replied sooner i had to pop out.

i can understand not having children on there but she is a grown woman, she wasn't tagged so only people who know us personally would know who she is.

i find it a bit strange that she suddenly decides after a year that she doesnt want to be on there anymore. there are pictures of her on FB with my ds and she hasn't asked to have them removed, just the wedding ones.

bamboostalks- we get along fine.

OP posts:
Stretch · 20/03/2009 13:59

Does she have a facebook account with pics on?

beanieb · 20/03/2009 14:02

maybe she really doesn't like the way she looks in the photos?

Original poster
bamboobutton · 20/03/2009 14:05

she has an account but only with photos of her dog.

i think not liking the way she looks is the only rational explanation.

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daisybaby · 20/03/2009 14:18

Maybe you should ask her why whe is unhappy with the photos being on FB?

Stretch · 20/03/2009 14:20

Ah, if she doesn't have any pictures of herself, then you should respect her privacy and take them down.

If she is like some on fb, who put pictures up every few minutes, then she can't really complain.

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