Yes, I know I am. But I'm still going to vent.

[PrettyCandles]

I totally lost my rag and screamed like a banshee at my dh and most of my children, all because dh was kind enough and concerned enough to come home early today.

Of course he didn't deserve it.

I had a dire night last night, only 3h sleep, and this morning I asked dh whether he could come home at lunchtime and work from home. He couldn't (some important visitor). Fair enough, I agree that his work is very important to us and that he shouldn't jeopardise himself in any way in the current climate.

The day panned out OK, and at lunchtime I left him a voicemail so he wouldn't worry - that we're OK, I'm coping, we've had a nice day so far, he's not to come home early, please, etc etc.

But for some reason he didn't pick up his message and came home early. Immediately the dcs go into high-maintenance mode and I lose my rag with them, and as a result I blame dh and lose my rag with him.

I don't think I'm a bitch really. But I've really been one just now.

I don't have PMT, just dreadful sleep deprivation and low blood sugar. He doesn't deserve it. But somehow, somewhere, I'm NBU?!

Awwww we all have days like that.

Have a cuppa, appologise to DH for being a screaming banshee and that you appreciate he came home early to help.

THen pack kids off to bed, have a bath and open a bottle of wine.

Tell him what you've said here

All will be fine

[soothing noises]

Lack of sleep means YABU/YANBU is null and void

Do you feel better now?

Go and give DH a kiss and say sorry. You are not a bitch, sleep deprivation is enough to drive the sanest person do-lally

...poor you, lack of sleep is a well known torture method! dont be too hard on yourself we've all been there!just try get some sleep , have something to keep the blood sugar up. DH will understand .

just go and give him a kiss and make up.

We all do it sometimes - especially when tired. As long as you apologise it is ok

Can't possibly comment on whether yabu or not, but if you frequently have outbursts due to low blood sugar there's a book called 'Potatoes not Prozac' which I found helpful - it's American (iykwim) but it helped me with the mood swings a few years ago.

There's also a website www.radiantrecovery.org.

Sorry www.radiantrecovery.com.

Hi Pretty

YANBU. You lashed out because you were sleep deprived and very stressed.

I only have one DD and I do EXACTLY the same thing to DP so I can only imagine what it's like with more DCs!

It's very easy when they act up to project your frustration/stress in the direction of other halves. After all they don't have to deal with the kids all day very day!

Sometimes I think my DP has it easy at his (v high-pressured) cushy office job eating birthday buns and talking to actual grown-ups

Give him a hug and make sure he runs you a bath/makes you cuppa/gives you a foot rub tonight!

Oh god I love you all [sob][sob][sob].

No footrub tonight - he'll be working from home. Ho hum.

Low blood sugar is because I've barely eaten all day, which is because I was up most of the night thinking I might be calling Huey on the great white telephone - hence only 3h sleep.