To think that smashing stuff because you're annoyed is bloody ridiculous behaviour for a grown-up?

[Queenoftheharpies]

I'm not talking big stuff, and it happens maybe once or twice a year. Throwing a cellphone at a wall, for example.

I don't feel in any personal danger, he's never hurt me and never would. As far as he's concerned it's a safe, easy way to "get it out". I find it disturbing and ludicrous in equal measures.

Am I over-reacting? Is the world in fact full of people venting their rage on inanimate things and I'm just an uptight bottler-upper?

Dittany: sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. Some people smash things when they are alone - that's not intending to intimidate anyone - it's just rather silly and naff.

yep i've done it when on my own, so don't know how it could be designed to intimidate as i'm pretty sure the cabinet i was trying to build was certainly not intimidated by me throwing a screw driver at the wall.
in fact it probably was laughing at how ridiculous and childish i looked when i then had to slink over to the wall,pick up the screw driver and return to being confused by the diy i was attempting.

I once threw a broken laptop out of a second storey window. I had specifically reserved it for the fun of chucking it out of the window when next in a bate.

Not something I have felt the need to do for many years though.

He knows how I feel about it. He just thinks it's a completely normal thing to do and that since nobody's being hurt by it, I have no reason to let it get to me.

I do worry about what happens when the DC arrives though - they have a million ways of aggravating you (so more opportunities to get wound up) and remembering from my childhood, adult anger is really frightening, even if it's just shouting.

Sometimes i really feel like smashing things, but i just try to stay away from the breakables when i'm in that mood. Could become a very expensive way of venting stress

But CRASH TINKLE SMASH sounds so satisfying! i didn't used to be a stuff chucker or a phone slam downer, but sometimes its better out than in as they say.

Queenoftheharpies Is this your first?

I found that the tiredness made me really irritable, and there's something about a toddler that makes you want to have a tantrum yourself .

Have a little word with DH, because you are right, uncontrolled anger, even if not directed at them is v scary

I have broken two phones in anger. One I lobbed into the bushes and the other at the wall.

I have always been on my own though. I would not lose control like that in front of someone else, if that's not a contradiction.

It does help.