to think school should look before phoning

[cheesesarnie]

yes its ds fault too but.........

today,got back from school run-half hour walk.to phone message from school saying hes left glasses at home, can i bring them.fair enough i would have but i knew they were in his bag!so i rang to tell them(he knew they were there too!)they said no they are not.i asked them to please look again.10 minutes later phone rings-'we found them!'

a few weeks ago the teacher took me to one side to say ds never has his reading folder in school and its effecting his reading.i told them its always put in his school bag every morning.

ds is 7-he should be able to get it out himself.hes also dyslexic and will try anything to get out of joining in with the class-which is why im guessing today was the glasses-no glasses,no reading or writting!

would it be really hard for them to look in his bag before ringing me to take something that i dont have to the school?????grrrr

I would have a quiet word with the class teacher and explain that you think that forgetting the glasses/reading folder is a ploy to get out of reading (sorry if you've done that already). It will maybe make her a little more understanding and helpful and save you a future half an hour walk!!

i have-but thanks anyway.i know he should look himself-which was there answer ,but he doesnt!would save them a phone call

sounds like my son and he is yr7 now

Sounds like all 3ds!

Ds2 had to take in an old T-shirt and food wrappers(long story about healthy eating). I found an old white shirt and several wrappers and put them in a plastic (orange) bag and made him watch as I put it in hhis rucksack with lunch tin etc.
He cycled to school with dh as normal.
He came home later and said 'oh yeah mum, I forgot to take in my shirt so I'll have to take one in on Monday instead.'

He has no idea what happened to the shirt and absolutely no recollection of it at all.
I now have to find him another bloomin 'old' shirt.
DS1 who is 12 regularly forgets to take his trainers to school for PE despite reminders!

my son ran round this morning looking for his drama kit when found packed it into pump bag and went to school, DH found pump bag in the hall on his way out to work

Sounds like Ds who is 8 and dyslexic to
he does this with his reading book
We can go weeks without it being changed

The teacher should know and check his bag

Many dyslexics have very poor organisational skills. You may very well need to support your son in gaining independence in the organisational department for some time to come- he is not necessarily unwilling, just finds it very very difficult to have the right stuff in the right place. Make sure your son has two pairs of glasses- one to keep at school in the teacher's desk, one for home reading. Problem solved. It's a lot more trouble than you might think for the school to ring you about missing things, so they must be doing the best they can with him. As you say, it's not anybody's job but your son's to look foir his stuff- if you aren't willing to do it, why should the school? I'm assuming he was sent to look and either didn't find them or didn't want to find them.

My DD age 9 never looks for anything unless it's in her hand. The school must know that children are like this!

V. annoying - DD is 4 and still has the odd accident - she is forever being sent home in 'school' knickers and socks with a mildly disapproving 'well, Mrs FB, we couldn't find spares in her kitbag' - they are there, I KNOW they are there, I PUT THEM THERE MYSELF, I go to her kitbag and there they frikkin' well are, but now i have to take home, wash and keep separate the school pants and socks to give back to them - gaaah!!

On occasion she's come home sockless because 'we couldn't find spare socks' - all said v. accusingly - I'm obviously marked down as the slattern mother who can't be arsed to send in a change of clothes for her child, which is highly frustrating when I know I have!!!

you got to admire his thinking, no glasses = no work I know what you mean about schools though, my dd got a text from the school dgc had not turned up, my dd was frantic, turns out she was with another teacher who "forgot" to tell her teacher

In DS case he is embarrassed to go to change his reading book as its up by year 1 classes and all the others are going to the libraury

I cant do it for him as he is in school the teacher needs to remind him to go otherwise he <strong>wont

I would say its the same with the cheesearnie lads glasses he conveniently forgets so he does`nt have to read and write

The bag needs to be checked before calling home

duchesse-i am willing to look.i do look and I put them in his bag.the things he needs-glasses,reading book etc are in school-i know that as i put them in his bag.if i hadnt put them in his bag i wouldnt be moaning about it-id accept its my problem.

interesting though that poor organisational skills is common in dyslexics.