To report neighbours to police

[mariemarie]

We have a problem with our neighbours. They are both in there 60s and up until last summer we got on fine.

The problems started when our children started to play out in our front garden last summer. They scootered along the front of our house up and down the street and either me or DH would be out on the front with them. Anyway, our neighbours daughter would regularly visit her parents and she drives far too fast up the estate and wizzes up their drive, which is obviously right at the side of our front garden.

This was happening regularly so I politely went round one day and asked if she could watch her speed a bit especially as the children were playing out. My children play with the children next door but-one, so they are regularly passing the end of next doors drive.

Basically, she didnt respond and I left, but she continued to drive fast. Eventually, it flared up one day when she nearly knocked me down whilst I was stood at the bottom of her parents drive (I was not on their property). Anyway, it has all got very ugly between us and them, resulting in my neighbour and me having a bit of a shouting match, which I am not proud of and she actually threatened to kill me last summer and her DH had to restrain her. I wanted to report her to the police just to make a point that I would not tolerate this but my DH persuaded me to let things go.

Anyway, we have kept out of there way and not really seen them much but a few weeks ago my DH was up a ladder at the front of her house when he heard something hit our car which was parked on the pavement at the front of our house. When he looked down, our neighbour was walking passed with her dog and had a walking stick. Whilst we cant prove it we are certain she wacked the car with the stick. Again, we let it go.

However, whilst driving up the street the other day with my children in the car, she was driving down and put 2 fingers up at us for no reason. She has since done this again whilst I was getting shopping out of the car. I just told her that she was a loonatic and that if she continued to be a nuisance then I would report her to the police.

We are getting a new car next month and I am convinced she will "accidentaly" scratch it. We cant keep it on the drive because our other car is on it. I am dreading summer coming when the children are playing out. She obviously doesnt like children.

Oh, and their house has been for sale for 2 years now and they are struggling to sell it because it has been overpriced.

Anyway, I guess what I want is a bit of advice on how to deal with them. DH just keeps saying ignore her but I wish I could just register a complaint with the policy just so she knows she cant get away with this.

Its all totally ridiculous, they look like a very respectable couple and all this could have been avoided if their daughter just drove carefully. I cant beleive they cant see how dangerous they are being.

thanks screamingabdab. It's a very big ask and I'm not sure I could do it - but with a stiff drink lined up to celebrate the end of the 'war' it may come as a huge relief to all.

Thanks everyone for your opinions. The problem about the speeding is that technically, she may not be speeding. She could well be doing no more than 30mph. But, just because this is a 30mph estate doesnt mean its safe to do 30mph round a sharp bend and into your mothers driveway.

Its all about common sense and safety. And if someone had to pull me up about my speed on a housing estate where young children played then I would be mortified. This girl is a mother herself to a toddler and a newborn.

Oh, and what I forgot to say previously, was that the mother had a go at me for letting my children play at the front of our house (even though I am always with them). She tried to say that they werent allowed to scooter in front of her drive because they were tresspassing. Obviously they arent, because its a public path. However, she said that if they continued to trespass then it would be MY fault if they were in the way when she reversed down her drive in her 4x4 and didnt see them!

I'm gonna be a nervous wreck in the summer hols.

Can you get hold of some road traffic cones and when kids are out playing put a couple in front of driveway. Then the daughter will have to pause while you move cones if she turns up and if she does speed and doesnt slow down then she'll hit the cones before hitting the kids!

they sound like miserable gits, i'd keep a close eye on your kids while playing out now the weather is nicer.

I don't think the police can do much about the speeding, and that is an issue to take up with the daughter.

Also if you report it and its declared in the house sale of your neighbour, it could get you off to a bad start with your new neighbours, who wouldn't know all the facts. not worth that.

We recently had moaning neighbours about buildng work we had done, apprently it caused dust? despite the fact our builder hosed down her cars for her without being asked. I am 8 months pregnant and really didn' need the stress. I wrote a letter to them apologising for the unavoidable inconvenience, but not accepting responsibility. Some neighbours have nothing better to do than moan.

I would ignore them as much as you can, there is not a great deal you can do about it.