This has been building up for years, but recent events have just made this more than i can bare without having a good old rant (mainly so i don't rant at my DM)
let me just give you a little insight of the past and then i will come to recent events
My DGM (darling grandmother) died when i was 14, she was my favourite family member, and it was a well know fact that i was her favourite, i lived with her for a bit and used to sit in her pockets, when she died i was devestated, i felt like the one person who cared about me more than anyone had been ripped away from me (and tbh i still feel like that alot now), but my DM has, in the last few years told me many 'stories' of what my DGM had said and done, i feel like she is dead-set on turning me against my DGM and feel angry because she isnt her to defend herself.
My DGM used to leave my sister out alot when we used to do things, which i know isnt a nice thing for her to have done but she seems to go on about it so often.
But she is gone.
My DGF is still around, a few months ago he was diagnosed with terminal cancer, at one point he was just given days to live but he is still going, but he is very frail and doesn't go out very often, his skin fells really soft and his hair has gone really white, as has his skin, he looks quite scary tbh.
Well my DM keeps making comments along the lines of saying he is putting it on when he fell over (he had lost his balance whilst trying to put his oxygen on) and saying he is lazy when he lets someone put his gravy on for him rather than doing it himself, My DGF is barely able to stay awake through the whole meal, in fact he didnt, i think, spend 10 mins where he didn't actually fall asleep at some point.
He keeps drifting in and out of conversations and sometimes he just comes out with random words/conversations that are totally irrelevant at all.
My mum seems to be thinking that he is putting all this on and also has made comments about how he is so eager to give up his independace because other people have to give his medication to him, my DGF has always been really indempendant and has always done everything himself.
And what is worse my DM is making these comments to my DF, who is having to cope with his DF going downhill with her in his ear, i know he would never say anything to her because he doesnt like confrontation and would rather just take it that go 'against' her.
I feel so angry at my DM, i feel like she is making an already horrid situation worse
My mum has always liked being at the centre of attention and always thinks she is right, i guess she will always be like that, but i just wish she would leave my DGF alone, and leave me with good memories on my DGPs.
AIBU?